kenyaboes 's review for:

Sounds Fake But Okay: An Asexual and Aromantic Perspective on Love, Relationships, Sex, and Pretty Much Anything Else by Kayla Kaszyca, Sarah Costello

4.75

challenging informative inspiring reflective fast-paced

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My only "critique" is that I wish the book would have been longer! It was really refreshing to learn more about an often not talked about side of the queer spectrum from a different perspective, and to apply that knowledge to my own experiences, in the hopes of growing into a better, more informed person. It really opened my eyes to how deeply ingrained the setup of certain relationships is in our society and the greater benefits that are given to those types of relationships--something I understood from the polyamorous side of things but less so through the aro-ace lens. I also learned about the split attraction model and thanks to that, was able to give terms and definitions to nuanced feelings I've had in the past that didn't fit into a clear label. It truly helped me understand others and myself. Really glad there's books like this!