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A review by dirtyseagull
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
relaxing
medium-paced
5.0
This is what I think of when I think "Self Help" or a reflective text that makes you really do some introspection and discover something about yourself. There are only three classifications that are explained here when it comes to your "Attachment Style", and yet each of them are explained with so much depth and detail that you can not put this book down and not see at least a little bit of yourself or something you do written here.
I want to say that they are nothing like the Love Languages, as they focus entirely on how you communicate and share your affection with someone, but the focus is on how you feel about it and how confident you are about your love that you share with someone or others in general. You can be generally confident enough in yourself that you don't project, or you can have varying degrees of avoidance and anxiety that causes you to push people away. What makes this more significant to me is that this is almost always self inflicted, these feelings you have that effect behaviors that affect others are internally generated by a number of different factors which are all explained so well here.
I literally put this book down about 3 or 4 times and looked at my hands just thinking, "They absolutely fucking nailed it and that is me, to a T." If you think you need that, or were looking for or some introspection on yourself that you didn't know you needed but could learn from anyways, this is the book you NEED to read.
I think that this changed my life and my love life in relationships for the better, immediately, and it can for you too.
I want to say that they are nothing like the Love Languages, as they focus entirely on how you communicate and share your affection with someone, but the focus is on how you feel about it and how confident you are about your love that you share with someone or others in general. You can be generally confident enough in yourself that you don't project, or you can have varying degrees of avoidance and anxiety that causes you to push people away. What makes this more significant to me is that this is almost always self inflicted, these feelings you have that effect behaviors that affect others are internally generated by a number of different factors which are all explained so well here.
I literally put this book down about 3 or 4 times and looked at my hands just thinking, "They absolutely fucking nailed it and that is me, to a T." If you think you need that, or were looking for or some introspection on yourself that you didn't know you needed but could learn from anyways, this is the book you NEED to read.
I think that this changed my life and my love life in relationships for the better, immediately, and it can for you too.