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A review by deschatjes
Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gabor Maté, Gordon Neufeld
5.0
This book has been a game-changer for me in understanding so many things. I stumbled across it as a friend had been to a Gabor Mate talk in London, and I'd read many of his other books but not this one. Then a lot of people were polarised on what John Marsden has been saying about Bullying and this appeared to provide a counter-argument.
It's a very long read (listen) and some of it is repetitive, and despite this supposed to be an updated version there are still references to defunct technology like msn etc. but the underlying logic and theories seem to be spot on to what I have seen and experienced with my own children and those I teach.
There are no simplistic dynamics, but a very complicated dance of the need for attachment and recognition, changing family patterns, mobile families, digital alternatives for socialising and more. Once I finish listening to this, I'll be buying a hard copy of the book and go through it again as a post-mortem of the last 5 years of my life and a pre-mortem of how I want my relationships to be in the future.
It's a very long read (listen) and some of it is repetitive, and despite this supposed to be an updated version there are still references to defunct technology like msn etc. but the underlying logic and theories seem to be spot on to what I have seen and experienced with my own children and those I teach.
There are no simplistic dynamics, but a very complicated dance of the need for attachment and recognition, changing family patterns, mobile families, digital alternatives for socialising and more. Once I finish listening to this, I'll be buying a hard copy of the book and go through it again as a post-mortem of the last 5 years of my life and a pre-mortem of how I want my relationships to be in the future.