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The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book about Relationships
by Neil Strauss
It's so rare to find a book that I binge on like it's the last food I'll ever get to taste again.
I love reading, but most books I read in a slow pace, savouring the words, taking my time to comprehend and make myself sure I am understanding the message behind the words.
This book, however, not only is easy to read, it's also incredibly addictive (just as Neil's behavior).
I'm a straight monogamous woman. I'm as predictable as it gets. Lately I've been question the nature of monogamy by observing most outcomes of monogamous relationships: they either end up with two people bored, hurt or lusting after the new.
And I definitely become to accepting that monogamy is not in our nature. We evolved to reproduce as fast and easily as possible. Infatuation occurs, settles in for a few months or years, allowing a couple to raise a child until it's old enough to go on on their own.
But, as society taught us, that's not what we expect in a developed civilization. We want the happily ever after; the long-term happiness; the unending passion feeling toward the same person; the same unshakeable sexual attraction for the same person, even after we grow old, wrinkly and saggy.
That's what Neil Strauss thought when he began this journey. And that's how I thought until I picked up this book.
Through his journey of self-discovery, which also makes the reader very uncomfortable questioning their own morality and relationship choices, we also begin to wonder about our very own ways of living love, passion, and sex. Is growing cold and distant avoidable? Is it possible to only have eyes to someone? Is it possible to live without "eating outside"?
This book asks and answers so many questions in so many different ways, though discovery, pain, lust, abandonment, chair work, therapy and sex experiences, that you are led to believe that there's only one way to truly be happy, and - SPOILER ALERT - doesn't go through living sex as the pivot that sustains relationships themselves.
I can say this book - pardon my French - fucked me up in the head. My world turned upside down. This book DOES make you uncomfortable, anxious, weary, questioning fervorously what you believe in and what values must change for you to live a happy life. Relationships are part of who we are, therefore it's only natural that we spend infinite hours pondering about it.
Do I recommend this book? There's nothing recommend more than this book. If you want to read non-fiction, this work is a must. I loved it from start to finish.
I love reading, but most books I read in a slow pace, savouring the words, taking my time to comprehend and make myself sure I am understanding the message behind the words.
This book, however, not only is easy to read, it's also incredibly addictive (just as Neil's behavior).
I'm a straight monogamous woman. I'm as predictable as it gets. Lately I've been question the nature of monogamy by observing most outcomes of monogamous relationships: they either end up with two people bored, hurt or lusting after the new.
And I definitely become to accepting that monogamy is not in our nature. We evolved to reproduce as fast and easily as possible. Infatuation occurs, settles in for a few months or years, allowing a couple to raise a child until it's old enough to go on on their own.
But, as society taught us, that's not what we expect in a developed civilization. We want the happily ever after; the long-term happiness; the unending passion feeling toward the same person; the same unshakeable sexual attraction for the same person, even after we grow old, wrinkly and saggy.
That's what Neil Strauss thought when he began this journey. And that's how I thought until I picked up this book.
Through his journey of self-discovery, which also makes the reader very uncomfortable questioning their own morality and relationship choices, we also begin to wonder about our very own ways of living love, passion, and sex. Is growing cold and distant avoidable? Is it possible to only have eyes to someone? Is it possible to live without "eating outside"?
This book asks and answers so many questions in so many different ways, though discovery, pain, lust, abandonment, chair work, therapy and sex experiences, that you are led to believe that there's only one way to truly be happy, and - SPOILER ALERT - doesn't go through living sex as the pivot that sustains relationships themselves.
I can say this book - pardon my French - fucked me up in the head. My world turned upside down. This book DOES make you uncomfortable, anxious, weary, questioning fervorously what you believe in and what values must change for you to live a happy life. Relationships are part of who we are, therefore it's only natural that we spend infinite hours pondering about it.
Do I recommend this book? There's nothing recommend more than this book. If you want to read non-fiction, this work is a must. I loved it from start to finish.