4.0

A quick read, useful, and entertaining. I would recommend this book to any post-grad woman entering/making her way up in the workforce. The types of misogyny described are all too recognizable, but the author provides useful mechanisms to combat them (or at least cope with/survive them). The author also describes self-defeating and damaging self-talk that women engage in that prevents them from realizing their goals. The author also has great recommendations for how to reprogram yourself out of that internalized self-doubt.

Criticism:
This book is riddled with ... “bropropriations” - how to perform the way a man does in order to be taken seriously. How to pander to the cognitive biases we have regarding images of power (I.e. men in power) and hack those biases to work to our advantage. This, as opposed to making qualities that are valuable but seen as feminine a standard of power, is problematic. We shouldn’t have to not be ourselves to be seen as equal in the workplace. It’s a hard line to walk ... how to gain respect and power in a male-centric work environment while also exhibiting and being proud of a female identity...

Ideally, being nice and being respected, being humble and being ambitious, being emotional and being effective, will not be seen as mutually exclusive, or seen as gendered qualities. Until then, the recommendations in this book are a good way to get your seat at the table and your voice heard, where you can insidiously demonstrate to the world that being the boss and being a woman and having a heart in corporate America is freaking possible. Get more of us in positions of power (without losing sight of what is performance and what is real) and maybe the next generation of women won’t have to deal with this bullshit.