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A review by imaginethehours
On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, David Kessler
4.0
A book that was quick to read, giving an overview on ways of grieving and grief in different situations. With lots of examples from real people peppered throughout. I didn't feel like I gained any big insights from it, but maybe that's because her work is already so famous that I'd heard it before? Seemed more anecdotal than research- based, but that made it an easy book to read and felt real and relatable.
We can touch the pain directly for only so long until we have to back away. We think about our work, get momentarily distracted in something else, process the feelings, and go for more. If we did not go back and forth emotionally, we could never have the strength to find peace in our loss. -p.34
"The truth is that in most cases, doing things differently may have changed the process but would not have prevented the death. " -p.41
"When a loss hits us, we have not only the particular loss to mourn but also the shattered beliefs and assumptions of what life should be.
These life beliefs must be mourned separately. Sometimes we must grieve for them first. We can't grieve the loss if we're in the midst of 'It's not supposed to happen this way. '" -p. 79
"We are sure that strong people can beat it. She will make it. Cancer is no match for a strong husband or fiercely determined wife. The message is that strength is life and death is weakness. So what are we left with when our loved one dies- weakness?" -p. 105
The mystery of the second penny.... like when the woman's mother-in-law used to say it was from the woman's mother. Mom thought of her mom leaving shiny pennies and change for her that she'd find.
We can touch the pain directly for only so long until we have to back away. We think about our work, get momentarily distracted in something else, process the feelings, and go for more. If we did not go back and forth emotionally, we could never have the strength to find peace in our loss. -p.34
"The truth is that in most cases, doing things differently may have changed the process but would not have prevented the death. " -p.41
"When a loss hits us, we have not only the particular loss to mourn but also the shattered beliefs and assumptions of what life should be.
These life beliefs must be mourned separately. Sometimes we must grieve for them first. We can't grieve the loss if we're in the midst of 'It's not supposed to happen this way. '" -p. 79
"We are sure that strong people can beat it. She will make it. Cancer is no match for a strong husband or fiercely determined wife. The message is that strength is life and death is weakness. So what are we left with when our loved one dies- weakness?" -p. 105
The mystery of the second penny.... like when the woman's mother-in-law used to say it was from the woman's mother. Mom thought of her mom leaving shiny pennies and change for her that she'd find.