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Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet
by Charlie Houpert
informative
medium-paced
I wanted to be the guy who was slapping hands with people as he crossed the quad. I wanted to be invited to parties and have people be disappointed when I couldn’t come. I wanted to be the man who lit up a room.
I think he just spelled out my need to read this book in these few lines accurately.
This book promised a lot in its introduction. I had high hopes from it because I have always wanted to be like 'that friend' from a group who everyone likes and listens to. Of course, who wouldn't want to be someone who everyone admires and who is being listened to by everyone instead of being ignored? For that, this book works as a good compact and practical advice for everyone who's looking forwards to upgrade their social behaviour in order to become magnetic and have social intelligence. Even if you don't want to impress someone, or be the life of a party, I think such behavioural cues and habits ought to be practiced by everyone as they will make you a good person in society.
The book is easy to read, packed with interesting examples from real life celebrities and personalities, and in the end has a 30 day action plan which I found to be fun, if not effective enough to make you charismatic in just 30 days. I won't say that I've instantly developed my charisma just by reading this book over the span of a month but it did teach me some things which I'm glad about.
However, this book also had a few things that I need to address since it was not all good and helpful. The book didn’t seem like it was edited. There were a lot of grammatical errors. Although, it didn't hinder my experience of reading it by a greater extent because I liked how this guy narrated whatever he had to say. But yeah, it was noticeable and at times, unpleasant.
Also, there were a few things that Charlie finds charismatic which I don't. For example, I don't like someone who's loud. Even if he's not literally shouting on the top of his lungs, I'll still won't find them attractive. Also, how am I supposed to have a natural deep voice when I'm a woman who naturally has a high-pitched voice? And I think this book had a few things that won't apply to a woman for her to be 'conventionally' charismatic.
Is it just me or do others also don't like it when someone starts telling you your 'purpose of life' on the first day that you meet? I mean it's okay if you are doing something on a grand scale which needs you to tell others about your goals otherwise I don't think that it's something to shout about to literally everyone you meet. Or perhaps it could be just me since I like to keep such things private. I don't know I'm really troubled here.
This book neither mentioned if these tips don't apply to woman nor that they do. So, I started reading with no expectations but by the end of it, I can see that this book is targeted to its male audience and a few things here are not considered 'charismatic' for women by others. I'm puzzled. Should I follow those tips which I also find to be charismatic or should I follow this person blindly who doesn't seem reliable enough.
All in all, I think this was quite good to be read in order to improve your personality and social behaviour.