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just finished rereading the book. I first read it in 2022 when I was first questioning my trans identity, and it was a good read the first time around, however I remember there being a few concepts I did not understand. I think at the time, I was desperate for explanations as to why my experience wasn't similar to the experiences of those around me, and I feel like I can relate to the author in some parts of their experiences
After identifying as trans and genderqueer for around 3 years now, I definitely understand and also find myself relating to more experiences from the interviews. I also found it a bit funny that during my own discovery of my transness, I also decided that an ideal way to figure out my gender was to ask those around me, which didn't get me very far in appeasing my own questioning. However, like the author, I realise now that all my discussions with people in the past about gender were valuable in building my own understanding of gender and transness as a whole!!
Reading the book also made me consider how my own experiences have shaped my identity. What would have come of my gender if I didnt grow up insecure? Does my identity as a South Asian actually affect my gender? How have my parents and my friends and my childhood experiences shaped my gender? What type of language do I find fitting for myself? These are all things I questioning while reading and I appreciate the thoughts. I feel enlightened and am appreciative of the influences that have played a part in my discovery