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A review by dirtyseagull
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced
3.25
Is it as good as "Attached" which tackles the same issues but postulates a different theory on what to focus on when it comes to intimacy?
In my mind no. The love languages themselves have become so well ingrained in culture at this point that they are considered a baseline when it comes to understanding intimacy with a partner and how to be more connected to someone you love.
Often I think that this book is very superficial in its observations about why or how this can "Resolve" conflict in a relationship and how making one simple change to the way that you interact with your spouse can save a marriage, especially when none of the nuance that lead up to this conflict is mentioned or examined. Often conflicts of an interpersonal nature aren't just cut and dry issues where one thing is in conflict and resolving that resolves everything else, its usually a small chain of events or things that have piled up that can cause issues.
Maybe thats the point though and that these categories are so general is meant to address that concern, where so many little things can be resolved under one behavior or action if you are willing to embrace it on behalf of your spouse.
I don't really know, I just found this to be lacking the emphasis on nuance and realistic expectations of how to embrace the differences you have with your partner, and think that if you really want to examine things in your relationship that you should research attachment styles more and how they impact the way that you love someone or receive love.
In my mind no. The love languages themselves have become so well ingrained in culture at this point that they are considered a baseline when it comes to understanding intimacy with a partner and how to be more connected to someone you love.
Often I think that this book is very superficial in its observations about why or how this can "Resolve" conflict in a relationship and how making one simple change to the way that you interact with your spouse can save a marriage, especially when none of the nuance that lead up to this conflict is mentioned or examined. Often conflicts of an interpersonal nature aren't just cut and dry issues where one thing is in conflict and resolving that resolves everything else, its usually a small chain of events or things that have piled up that can cause issues.
Maybe thats the point though and that these categories are so general is meant to address that concern, where so many little things can be resolved under one behavior or action if you are willing to embrace it on behalf of your spouse.
I don't really know, I just found this to be lacking the emphasis on nuance and realistic expectations of how to embrace the differences you have with your partner, and think that if you really want to examine things in your relationship that you should research attachment styles more and how they impact the way that you love someone or receive love.