A review by _chrstnlvly
When We Were by Diana Elliot Graham

emotional sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.75

 Reread Review

Unable to escape into sleep the way normal people do, books have been a comfort, the security blanket, therapy I refused to go to. They ask questions but don’t require answers. They make me think but expect nothing in return. And when I wake up in the middle of the night, they are companions that never complain, either keeping me company as I lay awake of lulling me back into a temporary state of rest.

I read this almost two years ago, and the story immediately captivated me. It stuck with me for a long time, and I often think about the characters. With the release of Six Morning Kisses, I decided I wanted to experience the emotional impact of this story again before diving into SMK.

Since this is a reread, I can now offer a more objective perspective. For instance, I realize that Arden
is quite an unlikable character. Josh is immature and selfish, which has been clear from the beginning. However, Arden fails to assert herself when necessary; as a result, Josh continues to treat her as if she were his possession. She had countless opportunities to stand up to him, yet she chose not to. Many people warned her about his behavior, but she ignored their advice, which is ironic since she is portrayed as a smart character. Reid deserved better. Although their breakup is painful to witness, it can be seen as a blessing in disguise for Reid. When I first read this, I felt irritated with Arden, but upon rereading it, I am enraged by her inaction.


In summary:
Josh = d*ck
Arden = ignorant
Reid = perfect


I still had a great time reading it and enjoyed the story just as much as I did the first time. Reading When We Were, although painful, is a worthwhile experience—it exposes you to the realities of love and life. It serves as a reminder that certain events are necessary; they shape us and mold us into who we need to become for our future. Yes, it can be painful, but that is the harsh reality of life. The book also emphasizes the importance of being vigilant about the people you surround yourself with, as they can either uplift or break you and significantly alter the course of your life.
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