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A review by thepurplebookwyrm
22 Things a Woman with Asperger's Syndrome Wants Her Partner to Know by Rudy Simone
informative
lighthearted
fast-paced
3.75
This book does a pretty good job of covering a series of traits, behavioural and cognitive peculiarities one often finds in women with autism (of the formerly named Asperger's Syndrome variety specifically, hence the title). I could relate to a lot of the things mentioned in the book and, moreover, appreciated the fact the author brought up things that are relevant to my lived experience, but which I haven't seen talked about as much in other places.
The advice provided in the book tends towards the conciliatory: communication, compromise and loving patience are strongly promoted. This is a good thing as far as I'm concerned, but it's also pretty... Obvious advice? And advice which I'm pretty sure applies to all kinds of coupled relationships, really. Thus I preferred the "presentation and explanation of traits" aspect of the book, rather than its more "couples' counselling" one.
Amidst the good, there is also a bit of cringe. By that I mean that the author sometimes relies on gendered assumptions and dynamics a bit too much for my personal liking. Apart from that however, this is a pretty good book overall. I can definitely see its potential usefulness as an introduction to the subject for a prospective neurotypical partner - though on a more personal note I don't really see that kind of relationship ever working out for me.
The advice provided in the book tends towards the conciliatory: communication, compromise and loving patience are strongly promoted. This is a good thing as far as I'm concerned, but it's also pretty... Obvious advice? And advice which I'm pretty sure applies to all kinds of coupled relationships, really. Thus I preferred the "presentation and explanation of traits" aspect of the book, rather than its more "couples' counselling" one.
Amidst the good, there is also a bit of cringe. By that I mean that the author sometimes relies on gendered assumptions and dynamics a bit too much for my personal liking. Apart from that however, this is a pretty good book overall. I can definitely see its potential usefulness as an introduction to the subject for a prospective neurotypical partner - though on a more personal note I don't really see that kind of relationship ever working out for me.