A review by kgsatter
1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 by Thomas W. Phelan

3.0

If I had not read Raising A Secure Child, I think this book would have left me feeling pretty conflicted and hopeless. 123 Magic is simple and effective, yet it doesn’t do a good enough job of differentiating between “obnoxious child behavior,” and deeply felt big emotions that children cannot yet cope with. Why send a child to their room for a meltdown when they are deeply disappointed and don’t know how to handle that disappointment? Just because they got to 3 and still were throwing a fit? Definitely not! But I know that because of other parenting books, not this one.
I will say though, this has helped eliminate many “obnoxious child behaviors” from my life in a simple way without lectures or yelling! I can finally do a workout without being climbed all over. I also can identify my children’s individual manipulation techniques and can better recognize when they’re trying to work me over. This book was very helpful, but I did find it lacking.