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Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
by Sherrie Eldridge
I hope this review makes sense as I try to gather my thoughts.
This book's title was not what I thought it would be. I thought this book would address different things to help ease the transition for adoptive children and adoptive parents. The first two thirds of this book was terrible and I honestly wanted to stop reading. As a new adoptive parent who is starting the process, this book didn't ease my mind or give me tools but rather scared me into thinking that this relationship with my adopted child some day would be all negative.
As someone who has studied children and psychology, I understood how loss encompasses the three groups: the birthparents, the child, and the adoptive parents. However, I felt the author was beating a dead horse with the first two thirds of the book by saying just how negative the child will feel.
This review has two stars because the one redeeming quality was the last third of the book. The author provided specific scenarios along with tools that the adoptive parents can use. I loved this part of the book! I was highlighting left and right. I honestly felt much better with this last part because I felt that I could put away some of these ideas and tools for future reference. However, I would NOT recommend this book for someone who is just starting the process. There is another book that I've read that address the same issues and ideas but under a much more positive tone. I'm sure there even more books that are better than this one.
I hope that I haven't offended anyone but please read this with the mindset that it is from my point of view; which is also the view of someone who is in the early stages of adoption. I'm sure there are parents who have adopted that love this book. Maybe I can re-read this book and have a completely different outlook; but this book was so painful for me to read that I think I would rather find a different book to pick up before I pick this one up again.
This book's title was not what I thought it would be. I thought this book would address different things to help ease the transition for adoptive children and adoptive parents. The first two thirds of this book was terrible and I honestly wanted to stop reading. As a new adoptive parent who is starting the process, this book didn't ease my mind or give me tools but rather scared me into thinking that this relationship with my adopted child some day would be all negative.
As someone who has studied children and psychology, I understood how loss encompasses the three groups: the birthparents, the child, and the adoptive parents. However, I felt the author was beating a dead horse with the first two thirds of the book by saying just how negative the child will feel.
This review has two stars because the one redeeming quality was the last third of the book. The author provided specific scenarios along with tools that the adoptive parents can use. I loved this part of the book! I was highlighting left and right. I honestly felt much better with this last part because I felt that I could put away some of these ideas and tools for future reference. However, I would NOT recommend this book for someone who is just starting the process. There is another book that I've read that address the same issues and ideas but under a much more positive tone. I'm sure there even more books that are better than this one.
I hope that I haven't offended anyone but please read this with the mindset that it is from my point of view; which is also the view of someone who is in the early stages of adoption. I'm sure there are parents who have adopted that love this book. Maybe I can re-read this book and have a completely different outlook; but this book was so painful for me to read that I think I would rather find a different book to pick up before I pick this one up again.