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1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married by Monica Mendez Leahy
3.0
My fiancé and I used this book in lieu of real premarital counseling, as we are separated by about six hours. We did the book over a serious of several months, beginning I believe in December and working our way through it. Ultimately, it certainly fulfilled its job in coming up with many questions we didn't think of or thought were too obvious to ask. I'm not sure we gained a great insight into each other in that we already knew most of the other person's answers (a good thing!), but it was certainly fun to re-hear the stories and understand how the person sees them in relation to the question. I certainly think working through the book together was helpful for us. If anything, it was simply a big project we undertook and completed together.
That said, some parts of the book I thought were absurd. Some of the questions I felt were truly over the top, so much so that I can't imagine anyone who might answer them in the affirmative was thinking seriously of getting married, much less had convinced someone else to agree and is then working through a premarital questions book. Nonetheless, I'm willing to give the book a benefit of the doubt. I was also a little annoyed sometimes with the wording of the questions. While for many question, Leahy tries to remain politically correct and make them work both ways, some questions have slips where it is assumed that only a man might have an issue with the problem in question. For instance, one question focused on a "bachelor" party and how "he" should behave, versus including women. It was easy to reverse and re-ask in the opposite way, but was annoying to read.
Ultimately, I think the book was certainly helpful and not bad at all for its purpose and I would recommend that any couple looking at getting married complete this or a similar book if they cannot obtain premarital counseling.
That said, some parts of the book I thought were absurd. Some of the questions I felt were truly over the top, so much so that I can't imagine anyone who might answer them in the affirmative was thinking seriously of getting married, much less had convinced someone else to agree and is then working through a premarital questions book. Nonetheless, I'm willing to give the book a benefit of the doubt. I was also a little annoyed sometimes with the wording of the questions. While for many question, Leahy tries to remain politically correct and make them work both ways, some questions have slips where it is assumed that only a man might have an issue with the problem in question. For instance, one question focused on a "bachelor" party and how "he" should behave, versus including women. It was easy to reverse and re-ask in the opposite way, but was annoying to read.
Ultimately, I think the book was certainly helpful and not bad at all for its purpose and I would recommend that any couple looking at getting married complete this or a similar book if they cannot obtain premarital counseling.