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A review by caseyjoreads
I'm Afraid of Men by Vivek Shraya
5.0
So many big thoughts for such a small book. Universality through specificity, as Vivek shares specific moments with us in a way that tells a cohesive tale of living in a complex dance with men and misogyny.
p.24 - "What might be crusing can also be contempt."
p. 35 - "queerness is associated with freedom from boundaries. Thus, any boundary is inherently unqueer." - I don't think this holds in all queer community, but there are touching-norm communities where stuff is fucked up.
p. 61 "Why is my humanity only seen or cared about when I share the ways in which I have been victimized and violated?"
p. 69 - "another problem with the idea of the 'good man' - the bar is ultimately a low lone, and men are heralded every day for engaging in basic acts of domestic labour like washing the dishes
And the admission on p. 74: "I'm afraid of myself - of the parts of me that even at a young age felt entitled to experiment with or even exploit a female body."
p.24 - "What might be crusing can also be contempt."
p. 35 - "queerness is associated with freedom from boundaries. Thus, any boundary is inherently unqueer." - I don't think this holds in all queer community, but there are touching-norm communities where stuff is fucked up.
p. 61 "Why is my humanity only seen or cared about when I share the ways in which I have been victimized and violated?"
p. 69 - "another problem with the idea of the 'good man' - the bar is ultimately a low lone, and men are heralded every day for engaging in basic acts of domestic labour like washing the dishes
And the admission on p. 74: "I'm afraid of myself - of the parts of me that even at a young age felt entitled to experiment with or even exploit a female body."