A review by blueberryhotel
My Lesbian Husband: Landscapes of a Marriage by Barrie Jean Borich

challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective slow-paced

5.0

ahhhh… one of the best books i’ve ever read. undeniably VERY dense and it took me almost 3 months to get through, but i can’t take off any points for that because it was just SO good. gorgeous prose. made me feel seen, understood, validated in so many of my inner musings - and not just the ones about being a lesbian! i also connected so much with barrie’s reflection on her young adulthood, her struggles in finding her place, and later, her recounting of when linnea felt her career aspirations were defeated. at times it was difficult to follow because of all the time skipping and jumping around from different periods of barrie’s life (and aforementioned gorgeous prose, which could be on the wordier side), but i wouldn’t have changed that. if i was writing a memoir i would want to be as verbose and descriptive to convey my life experiences and feelings too. i could write an essay on how much this book means to me. i felt so deeply connected with queer (and esp lesbian) history reading this. i love how barrie grapples with the dilemma of where lesbian marriages fit (and more often don’t fit) into the heterosexual mainstream. i think the review blurb on the back cover from rosellen brown says it best, that barrie writes “as if she herself were curious to discover what she is thinking about their relationship.”