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A review by valetparkering
The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks
4.0
Look, this was published in 2004. Some phrasing has not aged well. But we're taking what works and leaving the rest.
Chapter 7 for me was particularly insightful (more highlighting/underlining) but the whole thing is (obviously) worthwhile and necessary reading, not like it needed me to verify that.
I was a little wary of the framing of men as an "embodiment of the divine" or whatever the particular phrasing was, I don't have my copy in front of me. In surrounding paragraphs she specifies "religions that have male deities" but tbh any dive into spirituality starts to put me on edge.
For the people saying that she doesn't offer any concrete pathways for men to change: first off this book is about men developing the will to change, meaning they have to want it first, which is disincentivized by patriarchy. Second, I think it's pretty clear that men need to develop feminist thought and build communities to help other men and continue looking to women for guidance. Women, for their part, need to deconstruct their own sexist thinking and not reject men who are putting in the work and showing vulnerability.
Also side note the Harry Potter bashing has aged so well.
Chapter 7 for me was particularly insightful (more highlighting/underlining) but the whole thing is (obviously) worthwhile and necessary reading, not like it needed me to verify that.
I was a little wary of the framing of men as an "embodiment of the divine" or whatever the particular phrasing was, I don't have my copy in front of me. In surrounding paragraphs she specifies "religions that have male deities" but tbh any dive into spirituality starts to put me on edge.
For the people saying that she doesn't offer any concrete pathways for men to change: first off this book is about men developing the will to change, meaning they have to want it first, which is disincentivized by patriarchy. Second, I think it's pretty clear that men need to develop feminist thought and build communities to help other men and continue looking to women for guidance. Women, for their part, need to deconstruct their own sexist thinking and not reject men who are putting in the work and showing vulnerability.
Also side note the Harry Potter bashing has aged so well.