bee_knees 's review for:

4.0

I enjoyed this book way more than I anticipated.

The most common problem that people have with this Me and Earl and the Dying Girl seems to be that the protagonist is A) Unlikeable and B) A bad person. Both of these are 100% accurate. Greg is consistently selfish, whiney, vulgar, and prejudiced. The audience gets a front-row seat to all of this because of the conversational style of first-person narration. It essentially reads like something a high school boy would right all in one go without giving it too much thought. Which is the point. It intentionally emulations the off-the-cuff confessional of an immature narrator that is only just starting to see the flaws in his cynical, self-centric worldview.

I understand if you don't enjoy this type of thing, i.e. the "privileged middle-class white boy complains and self-deprecates while making several questionable of-colored comments for approximately 300 pages" books. I probably wouldn't had I not spent my formative YA consuming years with similarly detestable protagonists such as Holden Caulfield and any of John Green's male leads. I do not like these characters. They annoy me and often offend me. But they are well-written nonetheless, and I've built up a tolerance for them. I can relate to them in spite of myself, because I thought a lot like them when I was an angsty teenager, and I definitely knew people who talked or acted like a Greg Gaines or a Holden Caufield or what's-his-name from An Abundance of Katherines.

This book is a great representation of how experiencing loss does not serve to make the living wiser or more compassionate. Death is not romantic or illuminating; death is often random and always tragic. You grow as a person in spite of it, not because of it.

TL;DR: There are many reasons to not like this book. Maybe you hate 2010's YA. Maybe you hate that era's obsession with sick-lit. Maybe you just can't stand Greg as a protagonist. These are all legitimate reasons and I can't tell you that you should like it. But I think the stylistic and narrative choices made in writing this book were motivated and (usually) served to enhance it.