Review by bear_ridge_tarot - Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

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Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern

3.5

informative reflective slow-paced

Attachment theory has entered into the mainstream, but mostly the discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. This excludes so many people who do not fit neatly into the heternormative relationship box? That is where Polysecure comes in. Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern expands on the understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships and sets out specific strategies to help you move towards secure attachment in any of your relationships.

There was a bit of an overview over a non-exhaustive list of styles of non-monogamy relationships, but the book lacks because it spends too much time discussing how an established monogamous pair can transition more smoothly to non-monogamy. I wish the book had spent more time discussing actual nonmonogamy within relationships involving trans and nonbinary folk. It is a good starting point for someone who’s new to the concepts of non-monogamy and attachment theory.

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