beccastar_galactica 's review for:

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationsh by Stan Tatkin

3.5

informative reflective slow-paced

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This book is probably helpful if you are new to learning about the practice of healthy, intentional relationship- building, new to neuroscience of learning, and/or needing help with beginning to commun cate needs within your relationship. As someone who has done lots of reading on these topics, I found this book both basic and frustrating in its limitation to largely heteronormative and completely mononormative relationship dynamics. I didn't learn anything new, and honestly felt the author's alternative names for the attachment styles to be confusing since I am already familiar with attachment theory. That said, there are some good tidbits in here, and this might be a useful first relationship help book, particularly for straight monogamous couples. Unfortunately that's not me 🤷🏼‍♀️😅