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killerqueen565 's review for:
The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
by Fumitake Koga, Ichiro Kishimi
The way this book was set up was interesting. It’s a conversation between a teacher and student. But.. I did not agree with the philosophy. Some parts were fine and easy to understand.
What got me is that praising someone is feeling them they are beneath you (paraphrasing). What?! If I see an artist with a beautiful painting, I will praise them! Because I marvel at what they have done. I don’t praise people to feel more than. I praise the people on my team at work because they are doing great work! They make my job easier! I don’t see how this comes from a place of pretentiousness or judgement. Maybe I completely misunderstood.
When I heard this part though, the whole book lost me. It makes me think - Who thinks that genuine praise is a bad thing unless they have bad intentions when giving praise? Sure - some people may have bad intentions. But to say praise is bad and everyone has mal-intent is crazy to me.
Aside from that - I am glad I listened to the book. I learned more! I just don’t agree. : D
What got me is that praising someone is feeling them they are beneath you (paraphrasing). What?! If I see an artist with a beautiful painting, I will praise them! Because I marvel at what they have done. I don’t praise people to feel more than. I praise the people on my team at work because they are doing great work! They make my job easier! I don’t see how this comes from a place of pretentiousness or judgement. Maybe I completely misunderstood.
When I heard this part though, the whole book lost me. It makes me think - Who thinks that genuine praise is a bad thing unless they have bad intentions when giving praise? Sure - some people may have bad intentions. But to say praise is bad and everyone has mal-intent is crazy to me.
Aside from that - I am glad I listened to the book. I learned more! I just don’t agree. : D