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I'm OK - You're OK
by Thomas A. Harris
This books enables one to get better at handling interpersonal relationships, especially the important and essential ones.
The author says that an individual can acquire the role of a parent, adult or a child in any interaction. The adult is rational and sensible. The parent is controlling and domineering. The child is dissatisfied and often prone to rabble-rousing. These 'roles' don't depend on the age or gender. But, they drive our behaviour in any given interaction. Ideally, one has to stick to the adult role or adult mode for having best relationships with other people.
Secondly, the author says that our outlook towards an individual can be of four types: I'm OK - You're OK, I'm OK - You're Not OK, I'm Not OK - You're OK, I'm Not OK - You're Not OK. The best outlook is the I'm OK - You're OK position. This enables both individuals in an interaction to behave like adults.
I found it immensely insightful as a reader who has had tenuous relationships with people. Surprisingly, the same ideas of parent-adult-child formulations can help nations navigate their relationships. Highly recommended book.
Yes, it is similar to the book 'Games People Play'. But it seems to be more reader friendly as it explains concepts from scratch.
The author says that an individual can acquire the role of a parent, adult or a child in any interaction. The adult is rational and sensible. The parent is controlling and domineering. The child is dissatisfied and often prone to rabble-rousing. These 'roles' don't depend on the age or gender. But, they drive our behaviour in any given interaction. Ideally, one has to stick to the adult role or adult mode for having best relationships with other people.
Secondly, the author says that our outlook towards an individual can be of four types: I'm OK - You're OK, I'm OK - You're Not OK, I'm Not OK - You're OK, I'm Not OK - You're Not OK. The best outlook is the I'm OK - You're OK position. This enables both individuals in an interaction to behave like adults.
I found it immensely insightful as a reader who has had tenuous relationships with people. Surprisingly, the same ideas of parent-adult-child formulations can help nations navigate their relationships. Highly recommended book.
Yes, it is similar to the book 'Games People Play'. But it seems to be more reader friendly as it explains concepts from scratch.