A review by ebonyessencebookshelf
Don't Cry for Me by Daniel Black

challenging dark emotional hopeful informative inspiring sad tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? N/A
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

“Slavery did a number on black people. We haven’t survived it yet.”
“Hurt lingers in the soul.”
“No one should demenish themselves to prove their love.”
“No one can make you happy if you’re determined to be miserable.”

There were so many quotes but above are some of my favorites. This was a phenomenal story. Yes for some it will be hard and for some i hope you can open your minds. The way Daniel Black captured this particular experience in words is truly breathtaking. A lot of truth in this gem. 

You may not like Jacob or what he has to say but this is a lot of black fathers. Hell families in general. I respect his truth. It’s sad that it came so late. If parents actually just loved their kids no matter their sexual orientation that probably would help them not to find love elsewhere. Also could help them live a more fulfilling life from childhood. No child should have to put on a circus/act just to get their parents attention and unconditional love. The screen with the Jacob’s son getting beat up and then staying with his wife probably wouldn’t have happened if his son felt comfortable to be open with his parents. 

Even the stories of the male and female roles in the house was something to think about. Men seemingly doing what they want while the women can’t even have a dream let alone a voice. Thank God for the women that didn’t lose themselves completely. Making it known it’s “okay” to go after what you want. 

I can’t say my heart breaks for parents like this because the kids are not the ones missing out. It sucks that you know how you’re treating your child is wrong but can’t put your pride to the side. Then it becomes too late. No one should have to wait for “too late” when you can do it now. Glad it shows these kinds of parents are sensitive ashamed of themselves. 

Anyways read or listen to the book. Learn something and go be better.