A review by allimae
Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love by Robert Karen

5.0

"...a child needs to be lovingly attached to a reliable parental figure and...this need is a primary motivating force in human life..."

This book has been a fixture in my life for several months because it has taken me so long to read. Despite the fact that it is dense with research, it is written in a very accessible way. Robert Karen has a very measured and clear, almost clinical way of describing human behavior. Although his writing is subjective, it is balanced, and not brashly opinionated. It is not often that I actually look forward to reading a dense nonfiction book in the same way I look forward to reading lighter fiction, but I found myself looking forward to reading whenever I picked up this book.

I learned a lot from this book about myself, why I feel the way I do, and why others act the way they do. Although it takes time to work through, this book is worth it for anyone--but especially people who work with or have their own children.