vacantbones 's review for:

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

5.0

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i first stumbled upon the work of Esther Perel as a young college student, deep in the trenches of human sexuality studies. her work was revelatory for me. in the time since (and boy does that clock keep ticking) my own ideas about sexuality and what i want in life have kept on swinging like a pendulum. even with the seasons of my own life coming and going, changing and shifting as i continue to grow, Perel's writing has continued to speak to me. as a brief example: while Perel's framing of polyamory worked more for me as a younger adult than it does now, i still read what she has to say with full interest.

this one, admittedly, also challenged some of my preconceived ideals regarding infidelity all while soothing my need to read about other people's mess.

wish i would've read this one sooner!