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This book was a bit of a black hole for me. Long-winded and hard to get through. Interesting enough overall message though. I would recommend this book to people who actually have the TIME and the WANT to do “the work” of self-healing. I was on a time-crunch to return this to the library and this is certainly not the book to rush through in a few days. If you pick this up, take your time.
So here are my thoughts: Can our experiences as an adult be attributed to childhood memories and traumas? Of course. Is it good to address our childhood traumas in order to heal and live a healthy adulthood? I’d say so. Did the author give words to some of my feelings I experience? Absolutely. BUT, are our experiences and traumas from childhood truly disguising our authentic selves? FURTHER, is my infant self a more authentic me than the me who has gone through all my experiences? I have a hard time taking that.
I didn’t enjoy reading this book. Maybe this is a sign that I should be reading this book slower and actually do “the work”? I probably am supposed to be uncomfortable…this IS a self-help book after all. Reading this book made me feel defensive over my perceived adult self and self-identification. I felt uncomfortable thinking that what my perceived reality and everything I have experienced isn’t my authentic self. How can the self I know not really be me if I have put so much time into discovering and defining who I am?
I was hoping for some enlightenment after reading this but it was mostly just cyclical thought inducing. I read books to relax, expand myself, or to talk about with others but this one just made me worry and get in my own head which felt the opposite of doing “the work.”
So here are my thoughts: Can our experiences as an adult be attributed to childhood memories and traumas? Of course. Is it good to address our childhood traumas in order to heal and live a healthy adulthood? I’d say so. Did the author give words to some of my feelings I experience? Absolutely. BUT, are our experiences and traumas from childhood truly disguising our authentic selves? FURTHER, is my infant self a more authentic me than the me who has gone through all my experiences? I have a hard time taking that.
I didn’t enjoy reading this book. Maybe this is a sign that I should be reading this book slower and actually do “the work”? I probably am supposed to be uncomfortable…this IS a self-help book after all. Reading this book made me feel defensive over my perceived adult self and self-identification. I felt uncomfortable thinking that what my perceived reality and everything I have experienced isn’t my authentic self. How can the self I know not really be me if I have put so much time into discovering and defining who I am?
I was hoping for some enlightenment after reading this but it was mostly just cyclical thought inducing. I read books to relax, expand myself, or to talk about with others but this one just made me worry and get in my own head which felt the opposite of doing “the work.”