nightbirdie 's review for:

The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay

2.25

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Im rather disappointed in this. I really really wanted to like it, and it came with glowing recommendations from people I respect (the most convincing being Kay Hymowitz). 

I think almost anything said in this book one can find taking a basic psychology course, or talking to a therapist (or very insightful friend) once. I absolutely loathed her extreme focus on children, and making her clients feel bad for not having them earlier, or at all. the "I told you so!" rhetoric in reference to a client struggling with fertility in her mid/late thirties was absurd. I found her to be pompous and disrespectful for most of this book. all in all, the amount of times she said 

"20somethings" made me want to ofi myself, she seems self righteous and focused on heteronormative viewpoints, and has some blind spots. 

I enjoyed her takes on career, early relationships, and marriage. 

I don't recommend this book lol