A review by booktribes
A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

Have u ever been attached to a character 
so much that it keeps you up at night thinking about 
them? 
TW: Heavy spoilers, SAI child abuse, self-harm 

What happened to Jude was unforgettable. It was 
almost as if Hanya Yanagihara picked a bunch of 
triggers and thought "what cruel things should i do to 
this child?' from child abandonment to abuse to 
sexual assault to all of the things readers could not 
imagine happening to their own loved ones. 
Jude is that kind of friend that i want to help, the kind 
that i want to save but everytime i do help, somehow i 
feel he is falling helplessly. On the earlier chapters, 
Jude had accidentally broke Harold's mug that his 
late dying son made for him. He wrote a letter of 
apology (just for a mug) to Harold eventhough it was 
told unnecessary. This is my apology letter to Jude. 
Dear Jude, 
I am sorry that society has failed you. I am sorry for 
the things that has happened to you, that made you 
think you deserved it. I am sorry for the childhood you 
did not get to experience. You are so much more in 
life anyone could bring. Harold has asked you what 
are the 5 things that you are better in. To me, you are 
brilliant, you went to law school, you are an excellent 
litigator and lawyer. You are a brave and kind hearted 
man. You cook and clean well. You help others 
around you, you are a good friend. When you love, you 
love so deeply. Some of the things that you said to 
yourself is not true. You don't owe anyone anything. 
You always felt the need to apologize when we 
should be the one apologizing to you. Throughout all
that, i am glad you have met people who loved you for 
you. To Willem, JB, Malcolm, Harold, Julia, Citizen, 
Rhodes, the Henry Youngs and the others. You 
always said the axiom of equality is x equals to x 
meaning that no matter how improved your life has 
been, you will always be that same person (the 
person that is disgusting and deserved the hate and 
pain). I wished you could view yourself as a survivor. 
The things you have achieved defines you rather than 
the cruel things people has done to you. 
Nevertheless, I still view you as a survivor.

When i finished reading, i realized 
Hanya Yanagihara is just portraying 
apart of reality for the unfortunate 
ones. These are things that truly 
happen everyday of our lives and there 
are cases to prove it. 
There is a lot of intense debate about 
whatever trauma or events that 
happened was helpful or harming to 
people with mental health issues and 
people suffering from traumas. The 
book in itself was a depiction of Jude's 
intrusive feelings. I can see that this 
book is powerful, how words formed 
can be a harm to someone. I would not 
recommend this to anyone reading this 
just bc Jude's thoughts alone made me 
play with my own mental health. 
I cried reading 3 times. First when he 
was apologizing for the mug, second 
for being adopted and third for Willem.