vivian_munich 's review for:

To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma by Molly Millwood

2.0

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For a book that's supposed to focus on "modern dilemma", the author certainly perpetuated a ton of gender stereotypes. I can't help but feel the author projected a lot of her personal experience onto her clients as well as women in general. I guess I was hoping to be enlightened, that did not happen. The book is also tediously repetitive. Among the cases used by the author, honestly, all the women are over-invested / guilt-ridden / spend-more-time-at-home / wealthy-enough-to-see-therapist mothers, and all the men are career-driven, working long-hours, loving, and "helping out" their wives with childcare, but-def-not-getting-up-in-the-middle-of-night-to-feed-the-baby-since-their-sleep-matters fathers. That just sounds awfully like a specific demographic, and for god's sake please don't expect everyone to relate.