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A review by greden
The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed by Mystery, Chris Odom
4.0
With plenty of evolutionary biology theory, dog training techniques, some NLP terms, and chess analogies, The Mystery Method teaches how to pick up girls, in the nerdiest way ever conceived. And it’s great.
Mystery started off as a magician, which requires the skill of approaching people in an unoffensive way while entertaining them, and then gained an interest in picking up women. He has spent many years of devoted, painstaking "research", as a sort of ethologist geek studying normal human beings and their mating process, and he has done a really good job condensing his many years of teaching into a small, entertaining book.
There are two objectives in life, Mystery explains, to survive and reproduce. Simple as that. Similar to his ethics, his methodology to pick up girls is also grounded in evolutionary biology and psychology.
Mystery uses all kinds of strange terms and psychology jargon, displaying graphs, etc... Some illustrations seemed like satire, making it unnecessarily complex. I get the feeling Mystery is deliberately trying to sound weird to please what he figured would be the target audience. For instance, he describes “making her like you” as “triggering her attraction brain-circuits” - perhaps as a way to emphasise the predictability of the response.
There is no doubt that Mystery is a master at meeting women, and he packed the book with good advice. The book focuses quite a bit on the micro-techniques to come off as ever so higher value, but he's also advocating a much more holistic approach, for instance, live your dream! Have a cool life, don’t make pickup your whole identity, etc...
Mystery wants to leave as few things to chance as possible and therefore has provided the most systematic way of looking at the process of picking up girls I've seen.
A good pickup consists of 1) opening and generating attraction, 2) creating comfort, and then 3) seduce her sexually, in that order. To do that you must learn how to demonstrate high value (DHV) quickly and consistently, pass her congruence tests, maintaining a strong frame, until you get enough indicators of interests (IOIs), to move onto the next stage and create comfort and continually test her willingness to comply to your requests, in a gradually increasing degree, until sex.
There is a large emphasis on comfort. Don't be just another guy who was wacky and cool in the club. Make her get to know you. Also, avoid super-fast one night stands. Mystery advocates creating genuine connections, and delay seduction after you get to know each other, so she won't regret sleeping with you and will be happy to meet you the day after. This advice is novel to me from pickup literature. Real players must have the self-restraint to delay sex before enough comfort is established, which typically occurs in about seven hours, also called the seven-hour rule.
Mystery advocates an indirect approach, not explicitly hitting on the "target," but instead, demonstrates high value and keeps validation and attention just beyond reach for her, and continually testing her compliance level.
Some points I liked in particular:
"Smile. Guys that don't have success with women don't smile."
Become a talkative, sociable guy with an exciting life, invite her to come along.
When she asks what you do, consider why she’s asking. Is it just to make conversation? Does she want to get to know you? Or genuinely cares about the way in which you earn money? If she wants to know you, tell her the process from childhood and how I got here. You become more relatable that way.
Don't get stuck up on one conversational thread. When people are afraid to change topics, they care too much. Have multiple threads going. Don’t be afraid to cut boring topics short abruptly.
If your frame is strong enough, you can get away with anything.
Mystery started off as a magician, which requires the skill of approaching people in an unoffensive way while entertaining them, and then gained an interest in picking up women. He has spent many years of devoted, painstaking "research", as a sort of ethologist geek studying normal human beings and their mating process, and he has done a really good job condensing his many years of teaching into a small, entertaining book.
There are two objectives in life, Mystery explains, to survive and reproduce. Simple as that. Similar to his ethics, his methodology to pick up girls is also grounded in evolutionary biology and psychology.
Mystery uses all kinds of strange terms and psychology jargon, displaying graphs, etc... Some illustrations seemed like satire, making it unnecessarily complex. I get the feeling Mystery is deliberately trying to sound weird to please what he figured would be the target audience. For instance, he describes “making her like you” as “triggering her attraction brain-circuits” - perhaps as a way to emphasise the predictability of the response.
There is no doubt that Mystery is a master at meeting women, and he packed the book with good advice. The book focuses quite a bit on the micro-techniques to come off as ever so higher value, but he's also advocating a much more holistic approach, for instance, live your dream! Have a cool life, don’t make pickup your whole identity, etc...
Mystery wants to leave as few things to chance as possible and therefore has provided the most systematic way of looking at the process of picking up girls I've seen.
A good pickup consists of 1) opening and generating attraction, 2) creating comfort, and then 3) seduce her sexually, in that order. To do that you must learn how to demonstrate high value (DHV) quickly and consistently, pass her congruence tests, maintaining a strong frame, until you get enough indicators of interests (IOIs), to move onto the next stage and create comfort and continually test her willingness to comply to your requests, in a gradually increasing degree, until sex.
There is a large emphasis on comfort. Don't be just another guy who was wacky and cool in the club. Make her get to know you. Also, avoid super-fast one night stands. Mystery advocates creating genuine connections, and delay seduction after you get to know each other, so she won't regret sleeping with you and will be happy to meet you the day after. This advice is novel to me from pickup literature. Real players must have the self-restraint to delay sex before enough comfort is established, which typically occurs in about seven hours, also called the seven-hour rule.
Mystery advocates an indirect approach, not explicitly hitting on the "target," but instead, demonstrates high value and keeps validation and attention just beyond reach for her, and continually testing her compliance level.
Some points I liked in particular:
"Smile. Guys that don't have success with women don't smile."
Become a talkative, sociable guy with an exciting life, invite her to come along.
When she asks what you do, consider why she’s asking. Is it just to make conversation? Does she want to get to know you? Or genuinely cares about the way in which you earn money? If she wants to know you, tell her the process from childhood and how I got here. You become more relatable that way.
Don't get stuck up on one conversational thread. When people are afraid to change topics, they care too much. Have multiple threads going. Don’t be afraid to cut boring topics short abruptly.
If your frame is strong enough, you can get away with anything.