A review by felishacb
He/She/They: How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters by Schuyler Bailar

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5.0

Schuyler Bailar is a gift to humanity, and his ability to connect as an educator and advocate is astounding. 
I've been a follower of his work on Instagram, and through this book, I learned more about his late teens and college years. Part biography, He/She/They is both a beginning primer for those who seek to learn more about creating an inclusive world for trans people (and all people) and an ongoing workshop for those who care about trans people. His style of including online feedback and audience questions adds a community feel to the work. 

Bailar doesn't owe anyone education or details about his life; he doesn't owe anyone the patience I've seen him embody when responding to ignorance or outright hate speech. And we are lucky he offers it. 

In this book, Bailar gives so much of himself and his story in order to help readers see the world-changing beauty of trans folks. This book is for allies, for queer and trans folks. If you have questions, this is a great place to start. 
I highly recommend the audiobook, too. 

Quotes: 
Connection is the essence of our humanity itself. 

You are welcome to be curious. But you must also remember that your curiosity doesn't mean that you deserve an answer. 

Committing to including grief in my life means acceptance that growth is, after all, extremely painful, and it is also how I become all that I am supposed to be. 

I did not exit the box of womanhood to jump into somebody else's box of manhood. I am here to be myself. 
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