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Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder
by Randi Kreger, Paul T. Mason
This book is for people who have been abused by someone with BPD, not people with it. For those of us conditioned to feel we did something to deserve the abuse, or that there's something we can do to make it stop, it's comforting but saddening to know the effects and prognosis of this personality disorder. You don't have to let yourself keep being abused and taken advantage of just because someone else "can't help it". You wouldn't let someone with ebola stay in your house just because they said they didn't want to go to the hospital; emotionally, boundaries need to be set for safety also.
In fact, if you are reading this book because you suspect a loved one has BPD, it's best not to tell them or let them see you read this book. From the opening chapter:
"As you read this book, you may be eager to talk about what you’re learning
with the person you believe has the disorder. This is understandable. The
fantasy goes like this: a light bulb will go on in the person’s head, they will
be grateful to you, and they will rush into therapy to conquer their demons.
"Unfortunately, the reality usually differs. Your loved one is quite likely to
respond with rage, denial, a torrent of criticism, and accusations that you are
the one with the disorder.
"Other scenarios are possible, too. A person with BPD traits may feel such
shame and despair that they attempt to hurt or kill themselves. Or they may
use the information to deny responsibility for their behavior, as in, “I can’t
help what I do; I’ve got BPD.”
I had read an earlier edition, but this one is worth getting for the updated information on comorbidity with narcissistic personality disorder.
Thank you to the publishers and NetGalley for the opportunity to review a temporary digital ARC in exchange for an unbiased review.
Good luck to all who are suffering. Life can be better, but the transition is not easy.
In fact, if you are reading this book because you suspect a loved one has BPD, it's best not to tell them or let them see you read this book. From the opening chapter:
"As you read this book, you may be eager to talk about what you’re learning
with the person you believe has the disorder. This is understandable. The
fantasy goes like this: a light bulb will go on in the person’s head, they will
be grateful to you, and they will rush into therapy to conquer their demons.
"Unfortunately, the reality usually differs. Your loved one is quite likely to
respond with rage, denial, a torrent of criticism, and accusations that you are
the one with the disorder.
"Other scenarios are possible, too. A person with BPD traits may feel such
shame and despair that they attempt to hurt or kill themselves. Or they may
use the information to deny responsibility for their behavior, as in, “I can’t
help what I do; I’ve got BPD.”
I had read an earlier edition, but this one is worth getting for the updated information on comorbidity with narcissistic personality disorder.
Thank you to the publishers and NetGalley for the opportunity to review a temporary digital ARC in exchange for an unbiased review.
Good luck to all who are suffering. Life can be better, but the transition is not easy.