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The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome
by Harriet Braiker
(3.5) Sometimes when I can't sleep, I decide I need to figure out what My Deal is and I borrow self-help books from the library. Last week I decided my deal was people pleasing and, well, here we are!
I got some nuggets that worked for me, namely the idea that trying to be a nice person 100% of the time is disingenuous and can turn you into a bad communicator and get you the opposite results you want. And it won't save you from rejection or criticism. That's helpful reframing for me and kind of the kick in the ass I needed.
The book was more geared towards people who have trouble saying no, which is not my thing (I love to say no), but if it's your thing, you'll get even more out of this.
I got some nuggets that worked for me, namely the idea that trying to be a nice person 100% of the time is disingenuous and can turn you into a bad communicator and get you the opposite results you want. And it won't save you from rejection or criticism. That's helpful reframing for me and kind of the kick in the ass I needed.
The book was more geared towards people who have trouble saying no, which is not my thing (I love to say no), but if it's your thing, you'll get even more out of this.