4.25
challenging emotional informative reflective fast-paced

Really great way of thinking about familial homophobia. Even though it's from 2009, it's still very relevant in challenging how we see and treat homophobia, and a lot of the ideas were new to me. I came to the book after the author mentioned it in her other book Conflict is Not Abuse and you can really see the beginning of a lot of those ideas about shunning, discussion, and the responsibility of communication in this book. The reason I'm not rating it higher is that it while the last chapter about representation in plays and books is very accurate and fascinating, the author really doesn't connect it with the previous discussion of familial homophobia in a way that was super clear to me. Or at least in a way that justified it taking up so much space in an already-small book when the more specific topic of familial homophobia still didn't feel fully addressed. Still definitely a very worthwhile book.