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aidonz 's review for:
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity
by Esther Perel
Wow finished two books in one day! I listened to this as an audiobook. I was drawn to this book when taking part in a class discussion regarding the idra that monogamy is founded in colonization and is argued to be inherently racist. As a person in a monogamous relationship I wanted to learn more about the subject. The book is less about defending infidelity and more about creating liberating relationships in a consumer society. How do we confront inevitable feeling such as jealousy and inadequacy? Should we reconsider infidelity given how common it is (despite it being considered morally reprehensible in western society)? What can we say about polygamy as a response to this common practice? Perel applies a an approach similar to harm reduction. We know that people are drawn to infidelity, so how do we learn and heal or avoid it entirely by bolstering our relationships? I really enjoyed the book despite some slight repetition.