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A review by beabaptistaa
In the Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado
challenging
dark
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
sad
tense
fast-paced
4.5
wow nunca esperei ler um memoir escrito de uma forma tão interessante e fora da caixa. não terá sido nada fácil pegar nesta dor, que é viver uma relação lésbica de abuso, e transformá-la em algo tão inovador e refrescante.
o capítulo dream house as choose your own adventure ficará na minha memória para sempre.
para além do “relato” do que aconteceu especificamente com a carmen maria machado, ao longo do livro a autora partilha a sua pesquisa e informação recolhida sobre casos de violência doméstica entre mulheres o que, na minha opinião de pessoa que até aqui não tinha tirado muito tempo da minha vida para pensar no assunto, enriquecem muito o livro e possibilitam que o autor faça a sua própria pesquisa.
recomendo imenso a toda a gente!
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de seguida deixo algumas das minhas quotes preferidas:
“If you are silent about your pain, they'll kill you and say you enjoyed it." — Zora Neale Hurston
That is to say, queers – real-life ones – do not deserve representation, protection, and rights because they are morally pure or upright as a people? They deserve those things because they are human beings, and that is enough.
We can't stop living. Which means we have to live, which means we are alive, which means we are humans and we are human: some of us are unkind and some of us are confused and some of us sleep with the wrong people and some of us make bad decisions and some of us are murderers. And it sounds terrible but it is, in fact, freeing. the idea that queer does not equal good or pure or right.
A reminder, perhaps, that abusers do not need to be, and rarely are, cackling maniacs. They just need to want something, and not care how they get it.
Maybe this will change someday. Maybe, when queerness is so normal and accepted that finding it will feel less like entering paradise and more like the claiming of your own body: imperfect, but yours.
Most types of domestic abuse are completely legal.
“If you want to be my friend, you must do two things. First, forget I am a lesbian. And second, never forget I am a lesbian."
You shouldn't be on this page. There's no way to get here from the choices given to you. You flipped here because you got sick of the cycle. You wanted to get out. You're smarter than me.
"The trouble with letting people see you at your worst isn't that they'll remember; it's that you'll remember." — Sarah Manguso
It's not being radical to point out that people on the fringe have to be better than people in the mainstream, that they have twice as much to prove. In trying to get people to see your humanity, you reveal just that: your humanity. Your fundamentally problematic nature. All the unique and terrible ways in which people can, and do, fail.
(...) you can be hurt by people who look just like you. Not only can it happen, it probably will, because the world is full of hurt people who hurt people.
o capítulo dream house as choose your own adventure ficará na minha memória para sempre.
para além do “relato” do que aconteceu especificamente com a carmen maria machado, ao longo do livro a autora partilha a sua pesquisa e informação recolhida sobre casos de violência doméstica entre mulheres o que, na minha opinião de pessoa que até aqui não tinha tirado muito tempo da minha vida para pensar no assunto, enriquecem muito o livro e possibilitam que o autor faça a sua própria pesquisa.
recomendo imenso a toda a gente!
————————————
de seguida deixo algumas das minhas quotes preferidas:
“If you are silent about your pain, they'll kill you and say you enjoyed it." — Zora Neale Hurston
That is to say, queers – real-life ones – do not deserve representation, protection, and rights because they are morally pure or upright as a people? They deserve those things because they are human beings, and that is enough.
We can't stop living. Which means we have to live, which means we are alive, which means we are humans and we are human: some of us are unkind and some of us are confused and some of us sleep with the wrong people and some of us make bad decisions and some of us are murderers. And it sounds terrible but it is, in fact, freeing. the idea that queer does not equal good or pure or right.
A reminder, perhaps, that abusers do not need to be, and rarely are, cackling maniacs. They just need to want something, and not care how they get it.
Maybe this will change someday. Maybe, when queerness is so normal and accepted that finding it will feel less like entering paradise and more like the claiming of your own body: imperfect, but yours.
Most types of domestic abuse are completely legal.
“If you want to be my friend, you must do two things. First, forget I am a lesbian. And second, never forget I am a lesbian."
You shouldn't be on this page. There's no way to get here from the choices given to you. You flipped here because you got sick of the cycle. You wanted to get out. You're smarter than me.
"The trouble with letting people see you at your worst isn't that they'll remember; it's that you'll remember." — Sarah Manguso
It's not being radical to point out that people on the fringe have to be better than people in the mainstream, that they have twice as much to prove. In trying to get people to see your humanity, you reveal just that: your humanity. Your fundamentally problematic nature. All the unique and terrible ways in which people can, and do, fail.
(...) you can be hurt by people who look just like you. Not only can it happen, it probably will, because the world is full of hurt people who hurt people.