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A review by achristinething
He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo
4.0
Great book! Honestly only have to read the first couple of chapters or even the titles of the chapters to get the point. "He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Asking You Out", "If He's not Calling You", "If He's Not Dating You", "If He's Disappeared on You", "If He's a Selfish Jerk, a Bully or a Really Big Freak"
But it's still good reinforcement. I liked all the examples because the brain always wants to make an exception.
But the basic thesis is that if a guy likes you, he will do something about it. He will ask you out, he will hold your hand, he will try to kiss you, etc. No need to overanalyze things, invest in an idea, or make excuses. And there's especially nooo reason to waste your time waiting around or pinning over a guy who clearly doesn't like you enough to try.
It was a good reminder of how you feel and how things go when someone is genuinely interested in you. I liked [b:It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single|18079792|It's Not You 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single|Sara Eckel|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1372047325s/18079792.jpg|25387088] better but it was a different angle.
"If we're friends with someone and attracted to them, we're going to take it further. And please don't tell me he's just 'scared.' The only thing he's scared of--and I say this with a lot of love--is how not attracted to you he is."
"There's something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and lead as full and eventful a life I can, so that doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for a guy to ask me out."
"I would be spared hours and hours of...just hoping his mixed messages really meant 'I'm in love with you and want to be with you"
"And most importantly, it's good for us to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We're fantastic."
"When you think about it, making all those excuses for someone and trying to 'figure someone out' takes a lot of energy..."
"I will not, under any circumstance, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me."
But it's still good reinforcement. I liked all the examples because the brain always wants to make an exception.
But the basic thesis is that if a guy likes you, he will do something about it. He will ask you out, he will hold your hand, he will try to kiss you, etc. No need to overanalyze things, invest in an idea, or make excuses. And there's especially nooo reason to waste your time waiting around or pinning over a guy who clearly doesn't like you enough to try.
It was a good reminder of how you feel and how things go when someone is genuinely interested in you. I liked [b:It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single|18079792|It's Not You 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single|Sara Eckel|https://images.gr-assets.com/books/1372047325s/18079792.jpg|25387088] better but it was a different angle.
"If we're friends with someone and attracted to them, we're going to take it further. And please don't tell me he's just 'scared.' The only thing he's scared of--and I say this with a lot of love--is how not attracted to you he is."
"There's something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and lead as full and eventful a life I can, so that doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for a guy to ask me out."
"I would be spared hours and hours of...just hoping his mixed messages really meant 'I'm in love with you and want to be with you"
"And most importantly, it's good for us to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We're fantastic."
"When you think about it, making all those excuses for someone and trying to 'figure someone out' takes a lot of energy..."
"I will not, under any circumstance, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me."