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I wanted to burn this book early on but decided to suffer through.

However, because I’ve heard this book mentioned in Christian circles, I continued to read. There are a few nuggets but the nuggets aren’t worth all the nonsense I have to shift through. The author advocates giving up control in the home. Be a feminist at work and submit at home. Don’t question anything your husband does. Don’t correct anything your husband does. It seems to me, the author still is very much in control just in a manipulative sort of way.

A wife should make herself sexually available at least once a week, unless she is seeking therapy for sexual trauma (per the author). If you are seeking therapy the author goes on to say your husband will be just fine. He knew how to masturbate before you, he can masturbate now. I about vomited in my mouth when she wrote, “He may even use pornography when he masturbates. But what he’s reading or watching is strictly between him and God, and it’s none of your business. A center-fold is not the same as a flesh-and-bone woman, so don’t make it more than it is.” Trying to stop your husband from viewing porn is controlling, per the author, and control is a waste of time and is what interferes with intimacy.

If your husband is viewing porn, he is in sin. Speak to the elders in your church. This book should not be recommended to Christian women. I’m all for submission, however; I find this book disgusting.

Has the surrendered wife really surrendered or is she just passive aggressive in her form of control? It’s my opinion the surrendered wife doesn’t question anything her husband does while still controlling situations by her refusal to do the things she thinks her husband should do.