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A review by kaiju_krispies
Our Wives Under The Sea by Julia Armfield
challenging
dark
emotional
mysterious
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
This book is about a lot of things, but for me, it is primarily about the inextricable, inevitable relationship between grief and love. And like the book, I am left more with a series of impressions more than a concrete understanding of what happened here.
I'm a sucker for openers, the first fifty pages of a book to me are often my favorite; this is the rare one where it starts strong and just keeps getting better. I think the author is extremely clever in how and when we are fed a change of pace, a glimpse backward in time, or a grotesque new image. Prescient, also, to have written a book about the horrors of submarines in the deep ocean.
I spent most of the book feeling just slightly too stupid to gather all of the presented threads and tie them into a whole message. I can see the threads--the question mark of Miri's genetic illness and the pretending that we don't know what's going to happen even when we do, that grief is a ghost made vivid by memory more than it is about a person, that love is a void into which we stare and we are transformed by that love into something beautiful, grotesque, and impermanent--but I can't, quite, wrestle them into a whole, complete thought. This also feels right, because nothing about grief or love ever was just one thing. The night I finished it I cried to myself to sleep about my dog growing old, and in me is also the child crying for their old cat and only friend the night he died, and these are the same gritty pearl in the same body made different by time.
A book to read twice, but maybe not too close together, and an author to look out for. There were so many pitfalls here--over-flowery language, growing maudlin, making a thread too obscure or too obvious, revealing too much or too little, even letting the reader know it's okay that you know where this is going now, that's what a monster movie is--and by my reckoning they were all gracefully avoided. I cannot imagine what editing this was like. I appreciate being taken along on this story and will think about it for a long time to come.
I'm a sucker for openers, the first fifty pages of a book to me are often my favorite; this is the rare one where it starts strong and just keeps getting better. I think the author is extremely clever in how and when we are fed a change of pace, a glimpse backward in time, or a grotesque new image. Prescient, also, to have written a book about the horrors of submarines in the deep ocean.
I spent most of the book feeling just slightly too stupid to gather all of the presented threads and tie them into a whole message. I can see the threads--the question mark of Miri's genetic illness and the pretending that we don't know what's going to happen even when we do, that grief is a ghost made vivid by memory more than it is about a person, that love is a void into which we stare and we are transformed by that love into something beautiful, grotesque, and impermanent--but I can't, quite, wrestle them into a whole, complete thought. This also feels right, because nothing about grief or love ever was just one thing. The night I finished it I cried to myself to sleep about my dog growing old, and in me is also the child crying for their old cat and only friend the night he died, and these are the same gritty pearl in the same body made different by time.
A book to read twice, but maybe not too close together, and an author to look out for. There were so many pitfalls here--over-flowery language, growing maudlin, making a thread too obscure or too obvious, revealing too much or too little, even letting the reader know it's okay that you know where this is going now, that's what a monster movie is--and by my reckoning they were all gracefully avoided. I cannot imagine what editing this was like. I appreciate being taken along on this story and will think about it for a long time to come.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Suicide, Body horror, and Grief
Moderate: Chronic illness, Death of parent, Dementia, Terminal illness, and Death