A review by lachateau
The Courage To Be Disliked: How to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness by Fumitake Koga, Ichiro Kishimi

hopeful inspiring reflective slow-paced

4.25

“To borrow the proverb, one would make the effort to lead someone to water, but whether he drinks or not is that person’s task. The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked. Your interpersonal relationships will all at once change into things of lightness.” 

As the title itself, this book will encourage you to have your free will— as noticing that not everything is under your control, and it’s not your fault. I had many things to say on my early journey of this book, around 20 pages, since it makes me realize all my whole life was a JOKE. 😭🥹 Basically, this book shows you some theories from Alfred Adler, a psychology alongside Freud and Jung. It’s a whole conversation between curious-yet-tantrum youth and patient-yet-quite-manipulative philosopher. 

This book makes me thinking further way that not everything we know today is it is? That’s what I don’t like about social studies, not like science, it’s hard to swallow it fruitfully. Like any other philosophy books I read, like what my dad taught me about Dialectics from Hegel’s discovery, there always be thesis and anti-thesis. Life is a series of moments, which one lives as if one were dancing, right now, around and around each passing instant. A life without a destination, who would acknowledge such an unsteady life, that bends whichever way the wind blows? I learned about a termed “kinetic (dynamic) life.” but contrast could be called an “energeial (actual-active-state) life. Refer it to Aristotle’s explanation, ordinary motion—which is referred to as kinesis, has a starting point and an end point. The movement from the starting point to the end point is optimal if it is carried out as effienctly and as quickly as possible. 

Oh, I also learned about etiology (the study of causation) and teleology (the study of the purpose of a given phenomenon, rather than its cause). You will find so many gaslighting phrases that make you quite drained as you turning the page. However, the moral of this book is finding the courage to live your best life. Not to lean and do wrongdoings so you will be disliked. A short reality check from life-coach philosopher. Recommended!