A review by piepieb
Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on The Decision Not To Have Kids, by Meghan Daum


Yes! Yes! Yes!

Being childfree/childless by choice seems to be a taboo subject. I'm not very vocal about my childfree stance, as kids come into my place of business every day, especially during the summers.

I didn't even really think that I had a choice not to be a mother until a couple of years ago. I don't want them. I don't want them for a myriad of reasons, including the fact that they're expensive (I come from a family of 5 kids).

Finding and reading this book was like a breath of fresh air. While I receive witty and humorous support from various childfree Facebook groups, it was great to stumble upon this book "out in the wild."

The authors and their thoughts come from a range of backgrounds. Some authors wanted kids originally - I'm thinking of a female author, in particular, who went so far as to seek out a sperm donor but then a few weeks later miscarried and eventually never sought to be a parent again. Another author is a "stepparent," and, like some of the other writers, actually likes kids but never wants to have one herself (biologically). Some of the essays spoke of physical abuse/not having a great upbringing, and so did not want to bring a child into that mix.

I borrowed this from the library and wished it was my own personal copy so that I could highlight and underline all my favorite parts, lines that spoke to me. It was a great little collection-- a quick read --and I'm so glad I came upon it.