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281 reviews
Did not finish book. Stopped at 23%.
5.0
Graphic: Suicide, Transphobia, and Violence
Moderate: Racism, Sexual assault, and Suicidal thoughts
3.0
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
4.75
I loved the banter between characters, especially between Simone and Ray. At first Simone got on my nerves. It first appears that she has somewhat of an ego, but we soon learn that she's of course a flawed human and doesn't like change to her workplace. They also struggle with changing pronouns for Ray when Ray comes out as enby at work. Simone struggles with misgendering at first, and those bits are really enjoying. I get that when Simone first meets Ray, they haven't come out so their pronouns are unknown. But, I am glad that the misgendering doesn't take over the story. The slow burn between Ray and Simone is SLOW. You almost don't notice it until right at the end. Personally would have liked a little more burn.
I wish that we got a dual POV in this story, because I'd really like to hear what is going on in Ray's head. We don't get a ton of inner thoughts from them, and I think the story would have benefited from their perspective a bit more.
I thought it was really interesting to have a top surgery be a main plot point. I enjoyed that there are people around Ray that root for them and are on their side.
Also it goes without saying, but this story was very funny. I laughed so many times. I think the funniness also benefited from having a great narrator! Overall such a cute story, would recommend for those looking for diverse queer romances.
Graphic: Bullying, Deadnaming, Transphobia, and Medical content
Moderate: Child abuse and Sexual content
4.0
Graphic: Mental illness, Transphobia, and Abandonment
Moderate: Homophobia, Racism, and Religious bigotry
Minor: Deadnaming and Toxic relationship
5.0
Alabanza’s words were sad and also inspiring. I don’t know what it’s like to live as a black gender non conforming person but I can empathize with them and other folks who don’t fit into the binary box. I thought it was a unique approach to the book formatting, to have each chapter be a reflection on a phrase that at one point was spoken to or about them.
I can’t believe that we live in a world where we have so much focus on our gender and the gender binary. Why put us in a box. We need to love and accept our gender non conforming siblings because they deserve to live and thrive as humans.
Such a profound book! Alabanza is a fantastic writer. I would love to read more from them. One concept that they brought up that I thought was interesting was that they thought they might not be trans, if they didn’t grow up in a world with a gender binary. I hadn't thought about it like that before. Since we have a binary, we have words like trans and non binary for all the folks that aren’t in the binary. But what if we lived in a world where there wasn’t a binary and we just were.
I will be thinking back to this book a lot as I continue to push myself into thinking outside the binary.
Graphic: Homophobia, Racism, and Transphobia
Moderate: Suicide, Dysphoria, and Classism
Minor: Sexual content and Medical content
5.0
5.0
Incredible.
3.75
I’m grateful that Weigel has done so much for the intersex community, including coming out to the world in a very public way. She acknowledges her extreme privilege multiple times, and at times this kinda felt over the top in her experiences being white but that’s her story and we need it.
The audio was a fun format to read.
Graphic: Transphobia, Medical content, and Medical trauma
Moderate: Mental illness, Rape, and Sexual assault
Minor: Drug use
4.0