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Solitaire by Alice Oseman

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 idk if it’s the revisions or what, but I liked this a lot better this time. There is genuinely something magical about it and I love the raw and flawed voice
How to Become a Planet by Nicole Melleby

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  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

Thank you to Algonquin and Netgalley for an eARC in exchange for an honest review. This review is part of a blog tour created by Algonquin.

Last year, I read Nicole Melleby’s first two books, In the Role of Brie Hutchens and Hurricane Season, and she became one of my favorite middle grade writers, especially when it comes to queer contemporary middle grade! All of her books feature girls figuring out their sexuality, and Hurricane Season deals pretty heavily with the main character’s father’s bipolar disorder. Those themes continue in her newest, How to Become a Planet, but of course the characters and story are still their own. Personally…I think this is my favorite so far!

In Planet, our main character, Pluto–yes, that’s her real name, and she and her mom are astronomy and sci-fi obsessives–has just been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and missed the end of seventh grade. A lot of middle grade books that discuss mental health do so with the main character dealing with diagnosis/treatment of a parent or sibling, rather than themselves. If the main tween character is struggling, it usually focuses on the before-diagnosis era, like in my personal favorites Claire Legrand’s Some Kind of Happiness and Amy King’s The Year We Fell From Space. But, as Melleby has mentioned in interviews, we need to not think of diagnosis as the end point, but a starting point–and I am so grateful this story is being told.

So, Pluto’s world is changing–she has to take medicine, her mom has hired help running the family pizzeria on the Jersey Shore boardwalk, she has to do tutoring to move on to eighth grade, she needs to become comfortable with therapy, and she wants her birthday trip to the planetarium to be as special as it is every year. Pluto and her mom create this list in an attempt to show that Pluto will be fine living with her mom, because her dad in New York City has more money and more access to healthcare, and her parents are considering having her live there instead.

Meanwhile, Pluto and her best friend Meredith are not so close due to all the time Pluto missed in school and her fears about Meredith seeing her differently, so she also wants to attend Meredith’s waterpark birthday party at the end of the summer. She meets a new friend on the boardwalk, though–Fallon, who confides in Pluto that she has a list of her own to start exploring her gender identity and presentation (note: this is early stages; Fallon uses she/her pronouns throughout the book). These two parallel journeys have their similarities and differences, ups and downs, but ultimately Fallon provides something Pluto needs: someone who doesn’t see her as “different” since the diagnosis, because they didn’t know each other before. And…they also have a super cute budding romance, which savvy (probably older) readers will start to notice before Pluto herself does.

So many things about depression and anxiety were explored in an important, realistic representation. Pluto has her up and down days, and I felt so validated because a lot of people don’t realize that depression isn’t 100% the same every day. She has panic attacks and is too overwhelmed to do a lot of social things. Her feelings are simply communicated in the way she understands them at her age, with her own astronomy comparison. Nothing is perfect or linear in mental health, which is difficult when writing fiction, but Planet still manages to have a clear emotional arc of acceptance and improving relationships. Pluto struggles with therapy at first, and she mistakenly believes the therapist might be able to “fix” her…maybe I’m projecting, but I think it’s a common experience and misunderstanding. She’s also very insecure about her friendships and parents, fearing she could be a burden, and struggles to reconcile her “before” and “after” life before her ultimate breakdown and diagnosis–sometimes, it’s easier to just escape that old life. She even has trouble concentrating on reading, which I unfortunately relate to this year, and perhaps many of us can with how COVID affected our lives. Ultimately, Pluto realizes that like the former planet, she is the same, her classification has just changed. (Can’t believe there’s a whole new generation of kids who don’t remember their childhood love for Pluto being crushed in 2006 when it was demoted! Today’s middle schoolers weren’t born yet!)

Like Melleby’s other books and other good middle grade, How to Become a Planet features parents quite heavily–after all, they are such an important part of kids’ everyday lives! The situation with Pluto’s wealthier, NYC-living (and D&D-obsessed) father who has his own girlfriend and hopes Pluto will live with him seems like a familiar dynamic (minus the geekiness), but when she does reluctantly visit for a weekend, things are more complicated and unexpected. I loved how Pluto learned to see her parents as complicated humans still figuring out their own lives.

Planet takes place in New Jersey like Melleby’s other books, and the boardwalk summer culture is lovingly well-realized. This Italian-American with a Brooklyn-native father loved the inclusion of the pizzeria and zeppoles that Fallon’s large Italian family makes.

I admit, I sometimes struggle reading upper middle grade that is written in third person. It gives it a storybook feel that makes me want to hug the book closely, and while the sentence structure and language is definitely accessible, it can read younger than the characters are themselves (trust me, I’ve taught and worked with plenty of 7th graders). I felt that issue more with Planet than I did with Melleby’s previous Brie Hutchens–a book that strikes an eighth grade maturity not often seen in MG–but as the story went on, Pluto (like Brie) got to be a moody, complicated teenager that wasn’t completely because of her anxiety and depression. The fights between her and those she cares about the most really ratcheted up the stakes. The third person is also important, I realized, to communicate the little signs of Pluto’s crush on Fallon that she seems to not be consciously aware of for a while.

I desperately want to send this book in a wormhole to my younger self. This was such a lovely end to a Mental Health Awareness month. I started May joking that I’d been too aware of my mental health lately and needed a break, but several authors and their writing ended up helping me–which I will be writing about soon!

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You Will Get Through This Night by Daniel Howell

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Look, I’m biased because Dan’s “Basically I’m Gay” video is incredibly personally important to me, but if you know me then you know I am extremely critical of media that deals with mental health, especially when marketed/appealing to teens. (The day this came out I had a bit of an angry meltdown when a certain upcoming movie musical’s trailer was released, for instance.) Admittedly, this is nonfiction which I have generally less experience outside of classwork in terms of traps and tropes it could fall into, but especially for a “celebrity” and self-help book, it is INCREDIBLY careful and was fact-checked by a psychologist. It avoids the “if you do this like I do, you can be just like me!” problem you might expect from something like this, as he acknowledges that he is still on his own journey, doesn’t always follow what he knows are best practices, and presents different options to try out to see what works. It overall stresses destigmatization of mental healthcare and mental health in general, which indeed we all have!

This book is careful in the science as well as acknowledging the impact and limitations of socioeconomic status and other factors, offering suggestions to adapt the advice to fit different circumstances, and always pointing out (almost to the point it can seem repetitive if you are reading it in order) when things may be severe enough that you should seek some sort of professional help and the distinctions between general advice and psychiatric treatment/therapy. (I also appreciated the inclusion of the effects of menstruation and hormone-affecting drugs, addressed in a gender-neutral way!) While I am a nerd delighted in the scientific and academic references (if I was still teaching, I would totally use “neurons that fire together wire together” when getting my students to make connections.), I think more casual readers will find it MUCH more approachable. It is designed to be easy and even soothing to read with exercises to return to. 

His own examples and brief stories are there (and the introduction is a personal essay), as well as his usual humor to lighten the mood, but it isn’t heavy on the memoir aspects because it is meant to be as accessible to anyone, though plenty of references are there. (That said, the strategy of seeming more approachable and less intimidating by using himself as an example didn’t exactly work on me because I too am a queer socially anxious perfectionist constantly worrying, so instead of humorously roasting himself, I felt like he was also roasting me. Well, good to know my neuroses aren’t unique, I guess.) It is absolutely meant to be a starting guide and a reference...I listened to it on audio (shoutout Libro.fm!) which was enjoyable and had some bonus content (including a Q&A...and a cursed ASMR improv that I admit I didn’t make through), though it is harder to navigate and go back to different points without bookmarking them.

As someone who heavily despaired at the beginning of this year and has been on my own life-changing journey confronting my mental health (again) and authenticity, it’s great to know I’m not alone. This book and A.S. King’s SWITCH—as well as accompanying interviews and events—really made this Mental Health Awareness month personally impactful. (And now I’m closing it with Nicolle Melleby’s new book HOW TO BECOME A PLANET, about childhood depression and queerness!)

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Switch by A.S. King

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  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

Gonna hold this close to my heart as someone who has my own slow-down, time-stop moment and is a psychology nerd. 
I highly suggest watching any of the book tour events if they’ve been posted (some have)...such a healing experience.

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Flamer by Mike Curato

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5.0


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Three Keys by Kelly Yang

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Did not finish book.
This is very good. It is just reminding me of a different time in my life I am moving on from, so too am I moving on from this book. 
Trowbridge Road by Marcella Pixley

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5.0

RTC. Gorgeous.

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Too Much Is Not Enough by Andrew Rannells

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4.5


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The Electric Kingdom by David Arnold

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  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0

review to come if I ever have the words

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Why Johnny Doesn't Flap: NT Is Ok! by Clay Morton, Gail Morton

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  • Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated