I read this book after seeing a Story from a librarian on Instagram. He offered it as a comfort read for a grieving patron of the library. I immediately requested the book and read it as soon as I got home.
To be frank, I was scared to flip the pages. I easily predicted the lesson of the book concerning grief, but I was still scared to see the end myself. Flipping each page felt like an attempt to get closer to the death of me or the death of someone I love. There was no papercut on my finger from dulled pages of the old library picture book, but I felt like each page severed me from a connection that I endearingly clung to.
Recently my friend Betsy asked how I was doing, and I was able to tell her honestly that my head has been out of whack since my grandmother's death last year. I function. After all, I am used to functioning through ebbs of depression and anxiety, but I feel like I have to constantly move my limbs to stay afloat. That's why I sometimes just want to drop everything.
For everyone grieving, my heart goes out to you. I am very sad. I'm sorry you are very sad, too. Review
by Linda (she/they) in November 2023 Essay writer at DefinitelyNotOkay.com Podcaster at AmericanKsisters.com
I started this audiobook on a high note after watching Netflix series Beef. I was impressed by Ali Wong's storytelling and acting skills in the show. The audiobook is read by Ali Wong herself, and her reading is full of her characters.
Sharing of her personal life stories with sarcasm and punchlines did not last the whole book. By the end, I was tired of her close-to-yelling and extreme self deprecation even though I listened to is on many separate sittings with plenty of breaks in-between.
Unfortunately I could not help but judge Ali Wong's character as well. All the confession of her mistakes made her look like a very selfish person because those mistakes hurt and damage others so much. In my eyes, they were not funny.
One more thing that bothered me was the underlying hetero-normativity and traditional ideas of women's happy life in a family with children. I don't remember the details. If you are a fan of hers, I recommend giving a listen. It might be more enjoyable to cherry-pick chapters that interest you more, otherwise, it might feel like a long story to listen to.
The drawings are flowy and pretty. The plot and characters are intriguing, too. The story was too cheesy for my middle age self. I enjoyed readying volumes 1-4 but won't read the sequels or watch the show. I'm glad I got a peak at the hype around the show. I totally understand why many people are in love with it. The characters are quite lovable.
My usual limit of star ratings for a comic book is 4.0, but this one scored 4.75. This is one of the most condensed historical account told in graphic novel. It reminded me of Persepolis, but this book is even denser.
The book is filled with terror committed by Khmer Rouge page after page. It was so unbearable for me to witness the atrocity, even in drawings, that I had to take frequent breaks throughout the read. I'm very glad I read it though because I learned a lot about the painful history of Cambodia, which I knew very little before. The book is also filled with acts of kindness. Even in the most scary state of situations, kind people share what they have and help in the ways they can. The story wrecks your faith in humanity over and over while it also brings it back to you over and over. I strongly recommend this book to all people, especially students who are learning modern history of Cambodia or Asia at large.
Review by Linda (she/they) in Oct 2023 Essay writer at DefinitelyNotOkay.com Podcaster at AmericanKsisters.com