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Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
24 reviews
alexiconic's review against another edition
4.5
i do wish there was a little bit more attention towards other genders (although that may be another book entirely), as i’m still not clear on why in general women experience responsive desire to a larger extent than others. perhaps the details on that are still out.
and i wish there was a bit more development on to how to move on from realizing that - bluntly - you are normal and feeling anger because of the persistent, incorrect and harmful messages around us. like, what do you do with that anger, sadness? how exactly can you process it without becoming stuck in it?
but those are two small things in an otherwise very accessible and well-written book.
Graphic: Sexual content, Sexism, Sexual assault, Alcohol, Body shaming, Medical content, and Misogyny
biblioglot's review
4.5
Overall, I really enjoyed this book and would for sure recommend it to others who want to keep exploring their sexuality or those who are seeking validation that they’re normal. I easily understood the concepts and found them relevant to my own life.
Her final words were warm and inclusive. Loved it.
Graphic: Sexual assault, Rape, and Sexism
growintogardens's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Sexual content
Moderate: Misogyny, Rape, Sexism, and Sexual assault
Minor: Stalking and Domestic abuse
carlar's review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Sexual content
Minor: Grief, Homophobia, Medical content, Medical trauma, Rape, Stalking, Sexual assault, Sexism, Body shaming, Misogyny, Lesbophobia, and Sexual harassment
takarakei's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Sexism, Sexual content, and Misogyny
Moderate: Sexual violence, Sexual assault, Mental illness, Body shaming, Rape, Animal cruelty, Gaslighting, and Fatphobia
Minor: Ableism, Toxic relationship, and Pregnancy
Unfortunately a lot of modern science is based on animal testing/experiments, some of which are described in this bookriverofhorton's review against another edition
3.75
I found I didn't learn a vast amount from this book, and the bits I did learn gave me more of a "Huh, so that answers this personal trauma question", rather than increasing my understanding of sexuality in general.
So many times the book says something, then it'll say "More on that in chapter x." or "Remember this from chapter y?" and it just served as a jolt in the flow.
One of the things I didn't like, and feel I need to mention: This book uses gender where it should be using sex, and woman where it should be using AFAB, etc. I understand that this was likely done to avoid confusing sex the action with sex the characteristic, but it's the kind of thing that I can see affecting other trans masc people more than I. Using gender (and woman) implies that this book would not apply to trans guys, because gender, but it does apply to us (without surgical intervention) because sex.
It does also seem to portray "Don't want/enjoy sex, that's OKay, change the context and you will." Which skirts a little too close to being Acephobic for my comfort. Some people just aren't interested in sex, and that's OKay.
The basic sum, is that this seems to very much be aimed at the cis woman in a heterosexual monogamous relationship seeking to understand her body and sexuality. Which is great for the cishet woman in a mono relationship. And while there are bits that can be applied to folx that don't fit those categories, the lack of inclusive language is noticeable.
Overall, I can see why this book is so popular, and I will be recommending it to others, with the above caveat as needed, but I just didn't get much out of it that I couldn't have got from trauma therapy.
Graphic: Pregnancy, Sexual harassment, Body shaming, Bullying, Chronic illness, Sexual content, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Dysphoria, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Mental illness, Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, Medical trauma, Physical abuse, Stalking, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Violence, Child abuse, Grief, Medical content, Abortion, Eating disorder, Infidelity, Rape, Self harm, Sexism, Acephobia/Arophobia, and Biphobia
bootsmom3's review
4.0
Graphic: Sexual content, Sexism, and Misogyny
Moderate: Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Animal cruelty
Minor: Medical trauma, Body shaming, and Medical content
lizziaha's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Misogyny, and Sexism
jcinf's review against another edition
4.5
But the narrator (I believe the author narrated) was really engaging. She had a great tone. Fun when it was time to be fun and serious when necessary, too.
SA (s*exual ass*ult) trigger warning. But those parts were super well written. I appreciated how she didn’t linger on those parts too long. It felt just enough to inform without being triggering.
My main complaint is that it felt redundant at times. Tho I can understand that she may have been redundant bc the whole point of the book is to shift narratives surrounding AFAB/women/femme people’s sex lives. And it’s hard to shift narratives rooted is misogyny with just a few sentences.
Main topics I loved:
• dropping the shame around sex
• normalizing a diversity labias
• understanding your style of desire — spontaneous or responsive
• changing your expectations of yourself during sex
Highly recommend to anyone like me, who gets in their head during sex sometimes.
Graphic: Misogyny, Sexual content, Sexism, and Sexual violence
Moderate: Sexual assault
Minor: Ableism
smokingchagga's review against another edition
5.0
I saw another review on Goodreads complaining about the huge amount of metaphors. They didn't bother me and did a lot to upkeep the 'lightness' of the book. I can see it being mildly annoying to some but it doesn't take away from what the book is saying. Besides, how can I critique a book that calls me a tomato plant?
Jokes aside, there were a few sentences and wording that made me 'hmm' but it's not significant enough to subtract stars from the rating.
Graphic: Sexism
Moderate: Sexual assault
Feels interesting to add content warnings to a nonfiction book but it has to be said. Sexism and sexual assault are the most prevalent warnings. They are however discussed with care and understanding so I doubt it would be an issue in that sense. It does go into some detail about myths and harmful ideas about sexual assault which might be a hard thing to read about. Everything does absolutely have an optimistic undertone.