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I've loved attachment theory for a long time, but I've yet to find (until NOW) a book that really explains it in a great way. Sue Johnson is the best trainer for therapists, but I don't particularly like her books for the layperson. And a lot of the books tend to be critical of one or more of the attachment styles. And all of them use the terms "insecurely" attached or "avoidantly" attached - and let's face it, who wants to CLAIM those labels?? They're pejorative and make me seem flawed! I just love love love Tatkin's way of explaining attachment styles. Not only does he use different labels of anchors, islands and waves, but he does a great job of not making any of them seem horrible or flawed. In his mind, they all make perfect sense based on our experiences. And they are all workable as long as we become experts on our partners. This book is a great blend of neuroscience and attachment theory, but laid out in a way that anyone - and I mean anyone - can understand and put into practice. Highly recommend for anyone in a relationship.
The book was enjoyable, although I skipped through the first few chapters and the end. I think it’s tough to write a general science book— how detailed can you get? How oversimplified does it need to be? I think this book opts for doing halfsies between those two, without spending enough time in the more interesting middle. I have a large personal interest in neuroscience/psychology and found some of the research quite interesting. I’d love to see more application/discussion on a smaller scale, so e.g. in a given brain study of a group of people, rather than case studies then broad strokes saying your life is half empty if you’re not loving someone romantically and sexually.
I also saw a review I agree with that the personal romance felt a little… off? cold? haughty?, like one person in the room also worked on the big bang theory.
I also saw a review I agree with that the personal romance felt a little… off? cold? haughty?, like one person in the room also worked on the big bang theory.
Has some great tips, a good complement to other relationship books I've read. Focuses a lot on attachment styles.
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When my wife suggested reading this book together I wasn't 100% on board with the idea. After all our relationship is rock solid, but something funny happened when I began to read. I ended up finishing last night after slowly reading through this book over months and I have to admit it is full of information and strategies for improving a relationship, no matter who you are. My wife actually never ended up finishing the book, but she knows about every chapter and part, because I have filled her in. Even if your relationship doesn't look like any of the ones used as an example in the book, you will recognize your parents or friends relationships in the examples. It is a good read and I would suggest you take a look whether you have a great relationship or not.
2017
I really loved this book. I listened to it on Audible and will definitely want to listen again, and buy the book, so that I can do the exercises mentioned. So many great ideas, explained well.
I really loved this book. I listened to it on Audible and will definitely want to listen again, and buy the book, so that I can do the exercises mentioned. So many great ideas, explained well.
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