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barefootbetsy's review against another edition
hopeful
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4.75
This was an excellent book! If parents of Autistic children only read one parenting book, I think I'd recommend this one. I'm also an Autistic parent and had come to many of the same conclusions, but had never seen the process of dropping demands laid out as clearly as Amanda Diekman does in this book.
Highly recommend!
Highly recommend!
wintrovia's review
4.0
As someone that is familiar with PDA and low-demand parenting, I went into this book wary that it might be "preaching to the choir" to an extent and I might not gain much. However, I found it a really useful summary of the key aspects of this approach and the author's personal account of her experience was both reassuring and enlightening. Despite having read about this subject elsewhere, I still found plenty of new ideas and different ways of considering low-demand parenting, particularly around the idea of "Fake dropping demands" and how to care for yourself as a parent when using this style of parenting. The section on screen time was useful too as it helps to reassure that removing boundaries in this area isn't giving in and is a valid approach to support children who benefit from a low-demand way of being cared for. I can imagine some people may find some of the ideas contained in the book radical or extreme, particularly if you subscribe to a different approach to parenting but having already tried and experienced success with this method I enjoyed finding out more about someone else's experience.
courtneyr_dev's review
5.0
Parenting a PDA child must read
This was such a refreshing read for co-parenting a Pathologically Demand Avoidant child. I especially enjoyed the chapter giving questions for partners to identify demands placed upon each other.
This was such a refreshing read for co-parenting a Pathologically Demand Avoidant child. I especially enjoyed the chapter giving questions for partners to identify demands placed upon each other.
claureng's review
4.0
While my kiddos don’t match (entirely) the child behaviors described in this book, the author offers a strong case for working with our child’s nervous system, exploring why we place the demands we do, and creating a less demanding environment for everyone in the family. I will take lessons from this book and be able to easily apply them to my family’s needs and my own. While I was a well behaved and perfectionistic child myself, always following rules, I wish my nervous system (quite anxious and hyper vigilance for as far back as I can remember) had been met with such flexibility and understanding. It makes me argue that this theory applies, at least to some degree, really applies to all people. It makes me rethink how to show up in the world, especially as my husband and I navigate the realization of our children’s (and our own) neurodivergence.
tacomaven's review
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4.0
Can be applied to all kinds of neurospicy relationships not just parent child
xtine_leaps's review
4.0
A quick read that I finished in an afternoon. Overall, the book is well researched and well-written. While I don't think I'll implement the kind of parenting techniques the author uses, I appreciate her sharing them. I took off a star because this book places a heavy emphasis on how to parent when both parent and child are neurodivergent - an excellent resource for those who fall into that category, but I wish the title communicated that information more effectively.
michellestoll's review against another edition
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5.0