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4.63 AVERAGE
4.63 AVERAGE
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Holy crap this is excellent. I've followed Schuyler for a while now and immediately pre-ordered a signed copy of his book when it was announced. I finally read it and loved it. I tabbed so many quotes. Because I've taken his workshops before, I knew a good amount of information in the book, but it never hurts to read it again. Everyone should read this.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Body shaming, Bullying, Cursing, Eating disorder, Hate crime, Homophobia, Misogyny, Racism, Sexism, Transphobia, Xenophobia, Medical content, Grief, Lesbophobia, Dysphoria
Moderate: Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Toxic relationship, Religious bigotry, Outing, Toxic friendship
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Should be required reading for everyone. I knew it would be impactful and meaningful, but the straightforward and easy to understand easy the book is laid out really makes it accessible. Read this to start or strengthen your trans allyship, and become an advocate for trans rights!
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This book is like a very accessible textbook on gender. It talks to you as a person who may not understand gender identities, but is willing to try. It explains different questions that are just rude or unnecessary to ask a Trans person, like have they had surgery or how do they know they are a {man/woman/non-binary/other}? Good questions are what are your pronouns or do you feel comfortable or safe in this situation, and if not, what can I do to help?
One fact I didn't know about gender was related to people who identify as two-spirit. What I learned is that this identity is named as such to help non-indigenous people better understand the identity. But the word itself doesn't truly translate the experience, and not even indigenous person who does not identify as a man or woman will want to identify as such.
Overall this book was a good read and one I would recommend to those trying to learn more about modern gender identity.
One fact I didn't know about gender was related to people who identify as two-spirit. What I learned is that this identity is named as such to help non-indigenous people better understand the identity. But the word itself doesn't truly translate the experience, and not even indigenous person who does not identify as a man or woman will want to identify as such.
Overall this book was a good read and one I would recommend to those trying to learn more about modern gender identity.
informative
a book that i think is really helpful and informative for those that are curious and getting started learning about gender as either an ally or for their own journey
Content Warnings
Graphic: Homophobia, Racism, Transphobia
Moderate: Suicidal thoughts
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This should be mandatory reading for everyone of all identities, whether trans, cis, queer, straight, etc. As a cis queer person who considers themself fairly well educated about trans history and experiences, I learned a lot, including about my own biases and how to be a better ally. The writing is straightforward, and if you're familiar with queer theory in any form you may at times think "this feels obvious" or "seems self explanatory" but to me, that's the beauty of this book. It's accessible for anyone at any point in their journey to understanding and uplifting trans people, and it could go a long way to educating and creating empathy in those who haven't done the work to show up for the trans community (and even those who have, but have the capacity for more). Some of the stories from the author's life got me emotional, mainly those about his interactions with trans kids, and the personal pieces helped drive the informational ones home. A really excellent, easily digestible book filled with important factual information and an incredible amount of empathy. Truly a must read, particularly in our current times.
Bailar is the most patient and gentle with cis people. He deserves a Nobel Peace Prize.
This is a must-read for anyone wanting to understand the basics about trans people, our humanity, current issues, and just how to be normal around trans people. He/She/They will be my go-to book for anyone wanting or needing a trans 101. Which is exactly why I read this book, as I don't give people books to educate themselves without reading them first.
There is a lot about sports, as he was a competitive swimmer in high school and college, and he was the first openly trans man to compete at Harvard on their swim team. Too often, these debates about sports not only have zero trans voices, but they don't include trans athletes.
I'm really thankful for Bailar and his capacity to be vulnerable and assume good intentions. This is hard work that is extremely taxing, and he does it with incredible grace and empathy.
This is a must-read for anyone wanting to understand the basics about trans people, our humanity, current issues, and just how to be normal around trans people. He/She/They will be my go-to book for anyone wanting or needing a trans 101. Which is exactly why I read this book, as I don't give people books to educate themselves without reading them first.
There is a lot about sports, as he was a competitive swimmer in high school and college, and he was the first openly trans man to compete at Harvard on their swim team. Too often, these debates about sports not only have zero trans voices, but they don't include trans athletes.
I'm really thankful for Bailar and his capacity to be vulnerable and assume good intentions. This is hard work that is extremely taxing, and he does it with incredible grace and empathy.