mharrison13's review

5.0
challenging hopeful informative inspiring slow-paced

This book is about being an ally to the trans community and the individuals within the community, however I think its ideas and principles can be applied on a broader spectrum. 

Just a few things I learned: 
-Curiosity does not mean you deserve an answer
-what is intersectionality
-what are micro aggressions

cquinn96's review

5.0

A must read for everyone!
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kshertz's review

4.0
informative medium-paced

I think this book is important for anybody that has a trans person in their life. This is a very essential book. It has everything that you could ever want to know and ask questions about and what to say and what not to say. It’s definitely an introductory book for somebody who has not had a lot of experience with trans and non-binary people. I definitely learned a lot about micro aggressions, and what to say and what not to say. I found the information very helpful in terms of, what to say back to somebody who is also making these mistakes and micro aggressions and possibly being trans phobic. It’s definitely worth a read. 

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frog_appreciator's review

4.75

incredibly accessible this is one of those yeah everyone should read this books, maybe i’ll be brave enough to give it to my mom one day 

jaxattax354's review

5.0

Identities are complex and it takes time to understand because so many people experience the same world so differently. It is not quick or easy and we are all going to make mistakes. I don't think I will ever stop having more to learn because humans are always evolving. I am ready and willing to keep learning and growing.

This book was a helpful resource to educate myself and to learn more about someone else's lived experiences that are different than my own. Schuyler really tries to advocate for a whole community, but he is one person with his own perspectives and this book also represents a snapshot in time. However, I found that even though we have different identities and experiences, I could relate to some things he said. We're human and we deserve safety and care. I think that sentiment is timeless.

This particular book was written for people who are not trans, looking to better understand people who are.
There are other books to read if you want to read about other people's experiences and you can find a lot of them on the list of commonly
challenged/banned books.
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aya1081's review

5.0
emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring medium-paced

etrot28's review

4.25
emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced
challenging emotional hopeful informative inspiring fast-paced
informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

I originally heard about Schuyler Bailar in a book about 30 influential Asian Americans and Pacifc Islanders. In his entry, Bailar discusses when he came out to his grandparents. It was very moving and inspired me to learn more about him and his experiences, hense me picking up this book! I was not disappointed. Not only do I have a lot to think about, I have a bigger understanding of the trans experience.

starsh111ne's review

5.0
hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced