Reviews - He/She/They: How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters

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He/She/They: How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters

Schuyler Bailar

4.64 AVERAGE

trinitytaz's review

5.0

challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

ammarahw's review

5.0

challenging dark emotional funny hopeful informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

I am really grateful to Schuyler Bailar to creating something this informative and helpful. I really appreciated how he added his own personal experience with helpful advice on how to be a good ally and general reminders for being courteous around people whose experiences are different from yours.

I’m sure a lot of this information is something people understand from being online and informed, but there are a lot of statistics to back up assertions made in the book about how trans people are positively impacted by access to gender affirming care and negatively impacted by harmful legislation that seems to be put forward, despite the data, just to gain more control of other people’s bodies.

_chaoticbooknook's review against another edition

5.0

emotional informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

this was such an informative, human, and accessible listen. it was part-memoir, part-guide on how to be an ally to lgbtqia+ folks. granted, this was my first time reading anything non-fiction related to lgbtqia+ issues so there may be better resources out there, but i felt that this was a very excellent primer and introduction to the topic that was well-rounded and cogent to someone who is supportive of - but has admittedly never thought very deeply about - gender theory.

Bailar weaves in his personal journey to affirm his gender identity with discussions to others on how to be an ally to our queer friends, particularly our transgender friends. he details the awful questions he’s received, the preconceived notions and myths that continue to persist + why they’re wrong, the struggles he has and continues to contend with, and why it’s important and how to continue engaging others in discussions with others about gender and identity. i find that his advice is generalizable to other topics as well around race, disability, and other societal issues.

of particular note is the discussion he has about transgender athletes (he himself was the first transgender athlete to compete in the NCAA). honestly, that chapter alone makes this book worth the read.

overall, this to be a great resource for anyone who has always wanted to learn a little more deeply about gender identity but doesn’t know where to start. a really informative and compelling read!

brittanylutz's review

5.0

This was a phenomenal book not only for allies, but also for anyone who doesn’t quite understand transness or queerness, or even anyone who is on the fence. The information was presented in such a clear, simple, concise, and common sense way that makes it so easily digestible! I am so impressed with the author as a speaker, person, writer, etc and would read more by him for sure. This book is going to help me navigate with care holding space for a newly out trans family member!